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Category: Special - Pregnant After a Loss
Posted by Bella45 » Jun. 30, 2018 3:36pm

Hello everyone, I hope you all are fine. I wanted to share my sad situation with you. Last year I had a miscarriage. I lost my unborn child. I was in shock for months. I stayed in my room for months. Not facing the world. Everything seemed to me to stop. I was so depressed. And my worries are not finished yet. And can't overcome all this. I am not so brave. Everything is so difficult for me. I need some good suggestions. Need some positive vibes. Please help me!

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Reply by Jenifer » Jul. 1, 2018 8:31am

Hey Sweetie. I know it's difficult to get normal after miscarriage. Usually it takes time. The heartache you are feeling is really, and nobody can heal it. Try to move on, that helps to restore your health. Share your feelings with your partner as he is also in the grief of loss child. Give yourself time to be normal. Be strong. Nothing is difficult for you. You are not responsible for the miscarriage. No mother will kill her child. So please don't be depressed. Try again, you will be succeed this time. Lots of love and hugs. Take care

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Reply by alicee » Jul. 2, 2018 12:00pm

Hey sweetie! It is difficult to get normal after miscarriages. But don't think that you are weak. You must be a brave girl, that's why you are here for some suggestions. I totally get you that nobody can heal your pain. My cousin had been gone through this trauma. She had lost 2 of her premature babies. It was devasting for her. Later on, she gets to know about the clinic in Europe. IVF was the option she opted. Now she is happily living her life with a baby girl. please, dear, stay calm. Be brave. Hope for the best. Take care.

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Reply by monika123 » Jul. 3, 2018 7:56am


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Reply by rihana012 » Jul. 3, 2018 1:26pm

I am so sorry for you. It is really hard to overcome such loss. I hope that you will be a mother soon. Don't worry everything will be fine one day. You are a healthy woman. It is easy to have babies. A woman like us it is not easy. I have faced infertility for many years. But now after choosing surrogacy, I got my baby.

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Reply by stella009 » Jul. 3, 2018 1:58pm

I am so sad. This was not good what happened. Don't lose hope. I know it is hard. But if you want to be the mother you have to brave. You are not alone. There are many people who are facing this. I also have faced infertility for many years. I am now 41 years old. I am soon going for surrogacy. I am strong because I want my baby

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Reply by AshleyJones » Jul. 3, 2018 2:14pm

Oh, honey. I am so sorry for your loss. No grief is comparable to losing a baby. It's just so overwhelming. But you need to step out of it. And try again. You still have your chances. I'm praying for you.

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Reply by JanetJames » Jul. 3, 2018 2:47pm

Hey there Bella. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your situation. I know it must hurt a lot. I have been there too. I have had MC too. I lost my child in an accident. However we should stay strong. Accidents do happen. They don't always repeat themselves. Please don't blame your self. Be positive and keep trying. good luck and lots of love. Take care and prayers to you.

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Reply by SelenaJones » Jul. 3, 2018 4:58pm

So sorry to hear about your loss. I completely understand what's it like. I've personally faced 3 Mcs in last 5 years. So, yeah! I know stuff. Well, surely, I'd advise you to consider other options. I'm also having an IVF this month at a clinic in Kiev. Well, yes! I still am hopeful. I think that completing a family is really important. So, yeah! That's how it goes! Don't lose hope, honey. xx :) <3

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Reply by Emilykingston » Jul. 3, 2018 5:08pm

I am sorry you had to go through all this honey. I can totally relate to your turmoil. I hope you get out of this depression. It is so dangerous. I have been a victim for so long. I know what it feels. Just a reminder. I am here to talk. Whatever you need to share. Now coming to the post again. You need to talk to your doctor. Talk to him and understand your situation. If you are able to give birth now or not. If you can then you can start TTC. If there is a risk again you can work out another strategy. There is IVF. If you can not nourish the baby. You can opt for surrogacy.

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Reply by satashajones » Jul. 3, 2018 5:10pm

hello dear. I'm so sad for you. this is so terrifying. things shebeen really hard for you. but stay sane. don't take the stress. it was not your fault. do not lock yourself inside the home. things happen. they were meant to be this way. you should try again. there's no way you should lose hope. there are alternate procedures too. surrogacy or IVF is good too. try consulting doctor take care. lots of love.

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Reply by Isla28 » Jul. 3, 2018 5:37pm

Hello dear. Don't lose hope. I have also gone through all this situation. I was a sportswoman. I was suffering from fatigue injury. I was trying to conceive. My family was not accepting me. I lost all my hopes. Then I and my husband went to Europe. There the staff was so supportive. Now I have a baby. And i am enjoying motherhood. May God bless you. Take care.

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Reply by Amelia » Jul. 3, 2018 6:54pm

Bella, I am so sorry to hear this. I am very disheartened to read your post. I can understand your feelings. you should never lose hope. I think life is a name of constant struggle. You can see not only a single man spends his life without grief. Sometimes it becomes a bed of roses. But sometimes it becomes a bed of thorn. It doesn’t mean that we said goodbye to our life. no never. We should bear it with wisdom. We should think that we will not disappoint from hardness. We will bear it with courage. So, dude doesn’t be depressed. It’s the matter of your health, I hope you will take care of your health.

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Reply by Emily28 » Jul. 3, 2018 8:02pm

Hey! I am sorry for your loss. I would share my success story but it is bit different. After my 3 miscarriages, I came to know that I am suffering from uterine polyps and I am not able to conceive. I was so heartbroken but I wouldn't lose hope and decided to go for other options. I chose surrogacy and now I have a daughter. I am so happy that I chose right decision from the right clinic. In this method, baby belongs to the expecting couple legally and genetically. So I made my mind and now I am so happy with my family. I hope it would help you too

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Reply by lidya2 » Jul. 5, 2018 1:06pm

So sorry to hear that! this is always awful. It seems there is nothing to heal the loss you feel, but it does get better, Don't be afraid to try again!it's really the worst thing ever. Losing the happiness of having a child is really worst. You must stay really strong. everything will be fine. Just be calm and keep patience. Best of luck.

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Reply by alicee » Jul. 5, 2018 3:00pm

Dear Bella! I know it'sdifficultto get normal. The heartache you are feeling, nobody can heal it. I am deeply in sorrow for you. Try to stay strong. It's good that you are searching for any other option. A clinic in northern Europe treats infertility. I hope you'll get best.

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Reply by Hannahh123 » Jan. 2, 2019 9:14am

I am really sorry to hear about your MC. This must have been really hard for you. However, don lose hope! There are so many other treatments that you can try. Treatments in this field have significantly improved and there are so many options that you can now opt for. Maybe look into IVF and see if it will work for you. I myself have opted for the process. So far things are going really well. I will be starting the procedure in the next few months. For the process, I made sure that the doctor I was visiting was experienced and knew what he was doing. Once that was confirmed and once the services and packages made sense to me I opted for the clinic. If you need help regarding the clinic you can ask me. It took me almost a month to decide. So I really looked at all the pros and the cons. Sending baby dust your way.

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Reply by saramccartney123 » Feb. 21, 2019 8:28pm

Hello. That is terrible. I can't tell you how sorry I am. I hope you feel better soon. Take some time off for yourself. Think things through. Everything will be fine. Good luck.

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Reply by monika123 » Jul. 25, 2019 9:20am

Hey, I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I can completely understand how difficult it must have been. I am so emotional right now for you. I know MC is really hard to go through. Just be strong and brave. The number one thing when you are on this journey is to never stop giving up. Therefore, in order to deal with this loss, you can keep yourself busy by visiting the fertility specialist. They will do your checkups and help you get pregnant. I am sure there is nothing to worry about. Also, there are so many treatments that will ensure you have a safe and healthy baby. So just research about them. IVF has proven to be one of the most successful procedures. However, for this treatment visit a clinic with professional doctors. I have realized the importance of it after I started visiting a good clinic. Sending baby dust your way.

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Reply by Gretta1 » Oct. 28, 2020 3:09pm

Hello! I understand you so much...
I also had a miscarriage in the past and I thought that it's fatal.
But! Then I realized that we live in the best era ever! Now it's possible to have kids even for the ones that can not do that.
And the question is - surrogacy. A lot of options worldwide. Don't be sad, everything can be solved.
But please... please, don't make the same mistake I did. Don't wait for so many years before your program.

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