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devastated :(
By Mrsfingerscrossd » Posted Feb. 19, 2016 2:50am - 563 views - 6 comments

One of my close friends was due the same week as me. We were both having little girls too and it was soo exciting making plans to catch up while on Maternity leave. She fell pregnant the week of her wedding and I was there - newly pregnant too. We talked about all the pregnancy stuff we were going through. Then things went quiet.

I found out today she lost the baby at 23 weeks... I'm soo upset and devastated for her and her husband. I don't even know what happened (i think incompetent cervix) becuase she doesn't want to talk to anyone at the moment.

I'm scaref she's not going to be able to be friends with me from now on becuase every time she sees me it will just remind her of the loss.

Life isn't fair sometimes.

Comments for this Journal Entry

	Comment from Sailorswife » Posted Mar. 9, 2016 8:42pm I'm so sorry. It's sad when someone you love loses a baby, and it's even more devastating when you are carrying at the same time. A friend of mine lost her baby when we were both in our first trimester. This was her second loss in a little over a year. We were so excited to be pregnant at the same time, as we both have older daughters the same age who are best friends. It's hard to post anything about our baby, because I feel so heartbroken for her and don't want to cause her more pain. She has been amazing though and incredibly strong.
	Comment from stephc2010 » Posted Feb. 20, 2016 3:55pm I'll keep your friend in my prayers! Like others have said, I'm sure she just needs time. But do let her know that you're thinking of her, whether it's with a message, a card or even flowers, I'm sure she'll appreciate knowing that you're thinking of her and are there for her whenever she's ready!
	Comment from Mrsfingerscrossd » Posted Feb. 19, 2016 4:57pm Thanks ladies. I really hope that after some time to recover she will be ok. I can't imagine the pain she must be going through.
	Comment from dakotagurrl » Posted Feb. 19, 2016 11:15am That's horrible! I don't think u've lost a friend tho, she just needs some time. That's gotta be a lot to take in, I can't even begin to imagine. Just give her some space, send a msg to see how she's doing, every so often, and wait it out. It may take til u have ur baby before she's ready to come around, but I really don't think u've lost her completely.
	Comment from lala_0412 » Posted Feb. 19, 2016 8:59am I'm sorry to hear this. She will come around eventually. Good friends never go away. She will just need plenty of time to come around. Send a card every now and then to let her know you are still thinking of her. It helps. Even if she doesn't want to communicate she will still see how much you were there for her.
	Comment from Basia30 » Posted Feb. 19, 2016 6:50am Prayers for your friend. This is so sad.