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I hate people
By kCharleneS » Posted Jan. 29, 2013 9:09pm - 237 views - 4 comments
God I hate people. My aunt is stuck in an abusive relationship and no matter how much I try to get her out, she won't do it. I don't hate her, I hate her boyfriend. She moved in with him after she lost her house and had nowhere else to go. This was in July. She lives 30 miles out of the closest city and now has no car. Shawn got pissed off and slashed her tires, broke a window, took the wires out of her headlights, and who knows what else. She has to walk 30 miles every day to and from work now because of this. She's sleeping in parking lots because she doesn't want to go home. And he is trying to pull this "Woes Me" bullshit saying that she refuses to stay with him even though he had to have shoulder surgery and he has to fend for himself. Yet he just took all of her stuff, an ENTIRE houseful of stuff, to the dump by himself because he was pissed off at her. He says he did it because she slashed the tires on his car and beat up his trailer when my aunt is the LEAST violent person I have every met. This woman helped raise me. She always helps those in need, even when she can't even help herself. She never once raised her hands to her children. She took a beating from two of her ex's and her ex husband's family. For him to say this is a complete lie. And then he pulls this "I'm just gonna take a ton of pills so I don't wake up" shit and making people feel sorry for him. He keeps wondering why she doesn't want to stay with him and it's because of shit like this. And then his 23 year old son helps her by sometimes giving her rides to work and such and he accuses her of sleeping with the kid. Her son is older than him!
I just don't know what to do. She doesn't want to come stay with me because she'll have no way to get to work and doesn't want to lose her job, but I think he's going to start screwing with her job too. He's already said on Facebook "Good luck with the job you have for now." And then he posts other shit that's all lovey dovey and dedicates it to her. It's typical abusive behavior.
I know she doesn't want to accept help from people, she has too much pride, but I am so worried about her. One of these days she's gonna show up in a ditch either close to death or dead because of him or her walking 30 miles to work. But no matter how much I voice these opinions, she won't let me help her. I just don't know what to do. I worry all night and day about her. She is like a second mom to me. In fact, she WAS my god mother. Ugh, I'm just so worried. :-(
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I hate people
By kCharleneS » Posted Jan. 29, 2013 9:09pm - 237 views - 4 comments
God I hate people. My aunt is stuck in an abusive relationship and no matter how much I try to get her out, she won't do it. I don't hate her, I hate her boyfriend. She moved in with him after she lost her house and had nowhere else to go. This was in July. She lives 30 miles out of the closest city and now has no car. Shawn got pissed off and slashed her tires, broke a window, took the wires out of her headlights, and who knows what else. She has to walk 30 miles every day to and from work now because of this. She's sleeping in parking lots because she doesn't want to go home. And he is trying to pull this "Woes Me" bullshit saying that she refuses to stay with him even though he had to have shoulder surgery and he has to fend for himself. Yet he just took all of her stuff, an ENTIRE houseful of stuff, to the dump by himself because he was pissed off at her. He says he did it because she slashed the tires on his car and beat up his trailer when my aunt is the LEAST violent person I have every met. This woman helped raise me. She always helps those in need, even when she can't even help herself. She never once raised her hands to her children. She took a beating from two of her ex's and her ex husband's family. For him to say this is a complete lie. And then he pulls this "I'm just gonna take a ton of pills so I don't wake up" shit and making people feel sorry for him. He keeps wondering why she doesn't want to stay with him and it's because of shit like this. And then his 23 year old son helps her by sometimes giving her rides to work and such and he accuses her of sleeping with the kid. Her son is older than him!
I just don't know what to do. She doesn't want to come stay with me because she'll have no way to get to work and doesn't want to lose her job, but I think he's going to start screwing with her job too. He's already said on Facebook "Good luck with the job you have for now." And then he posts other shit that's all lovey dovey and dedicates it to her. It's typical abusive behavior.
I know she doesn't want to accept help from people, she has too much pride, but I am so worried about her. One of these days she's gonna show up in a ditch either close to death or dead because of him or her walking 30 miles to work. But no matter how much I voice these opinions, she won't let me help her. I just don't know what to do. I worry all night and day about her. She is like a second mom to me. In fact, she WAS my god mother. Ugh, I'm just so worried. :-(
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from kCharleneS » Posted Jan. 30, 2013 10:50am Thank you very much. :-) |
 | Comment from shannonbpowers » Posted Jan. 30, 2013 2:55am I get that, but just stay strong and I am here if you ever need an ear. (: |
| Comment from kCharleneS » Posted Jan. 30, 2013 2:54am I'm trying, it's just so hard to see him verbally harassing her and not being able to do or say anything to him about it because I don't want to make things worse for her. :-( |
| Comment from shannonbpowers » Posted Jan. 30, 2013 2:40am You know, sometimes it's easy for us as outsiders to see what is happening, but for a partner of an abusive partner it is harder for them to see. I have been there. Not to this extent, but you know it was pretty bad. It took me saying "Okay, I have to leave" for it to actually happen. It's gotta be her decision. And all you can do is be there for her when she does need your help. That's all. It has to be her decision to leave, and to never go back. Hang in there. Just be there for her. |
