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Just another day
By HzlGreenEyes » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 9:40am - 397 views - 10 comments

Allergies have been really bad lately. I've been taking a claritan once a day and I still sneeze and have to blow my nose frequently. I find it easier to find Mathew's heartbeat on the doppler now. He is usually in the same spot but will move around to move from me pushing down to hear him better. Pretty funny actually. :-)

I had the worst sleep last night. Hubby usually plays PBA softball on Tuesdays and drinks a little too much so when he gets home it sounds like a rhinosaurus stampeding through the house. Then he will wake up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, but he gets "lost" in the process. I had to vocally guide him through the room to make sure he makes it out of our bedroom which he has lived in for 8 years.... Seriously though this over drinking needs to stop. When I walked out to my car this morning, I noticed his truck parked almost out in the street. I have yelled at him multiple times about drinking and driving and he hears me and is good for a couple of months then it starts back up. I fear him getting into an accident and hurting someone else. He will loose his job and he may end up losing me because we will lose everything. I sent him a message to call me when he gets up because we need to talk about this irresponsible behavior that he is not rectifying. I'm so fed up.

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	Comment from HzlGreenEyes » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 6:03pm Thank you ladies for sharing you similar situations! Sad to say we either have been there or still going through the same. Snolie, I give you a lot of credit sticking it through especially with everything you have gone through with him. So weird that the other woman friend requested you almost to watch everything going on from the outside. So he called me this afternoon and I asked how much he drank and from what he told me, it was quite a bit. I told him that I'm concerned and reminded him that if he gets into an accident we lose everything. The fact he gets disoriented when he wakes up to go to the bathroom is concerning and told him I was exhausted today falling asleep at my desk and god for bid I fall asleep at the wheel with my son in the back and with this one in me. He apologized and from the tone in his voice I could tell he is hearing me. Let's see if he makes any changes and stay that way
	Comment from snolie14 » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 12:43pm My SO drinks all the time...Hunter's daddy (who's been in Mississippi for over 10 weeks working) drinks about a 12 pack a day, but what's weird is he doesn't get drunk or act out or act drunk. You can tell when he's had too much because he get's down and depressed. We went to MS to see him a few weeks ago and he was saying that he really wants to slow down, and his driving better while having 10-12 beers in him isn't good...because one day he'll get busted. He's the type that as soon as he clocks out, he's got a beer in his hand, even driving home from work...there are several empty beer cans in the back of his Suburban that I drove the other day...grrrrrr. Still on the fence if we're still going to be together or not...his other baby is almost 5 months old (that bitch friended me on FB)... I like my beer too, but I maybe only drink 1 a night IF that (the brewers yeast really boosts my milk supply LOL). Good luck mamma, hope he starts being more responsible.
	Comment from Amanda_McDaniel » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 12:26pm My husband's father is an alcoholic and, from the stories I've heard, my husband was pretty depressed before we met and heading down the same road. And, while I occasionally enjoy wine or a fruity beach drink, I am definitely not a drinker. It didn't take my husband (who hit a guardrail on two different occasions before we met while drinking) long to learn that I wasn't having it. When he does drink, he's either at home or I am his DD. No exceptions. Being military, he struggles but has been greatly compensated by his buddies who appreciate always having someone to drive them home.
	Comment from Summer0120 » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 11:13am I am a different breed and well I guess they just call us "bitches". I have only allowed my SO to drink a handful of times since getting pregnant, and it isn't more than 2-3 beers at a time. I will be taking him out for his birthday in October, and I'm sure he'll get shit-faced. But I told him from the beginning, we made the decision together to have this baby. So he can sacrifice as much as me. I'm already suffering enough physically. He can at least sustain from drinking when I can't drink either. It's caused a few arguments, but overall he is very understanding about it. I told him that if he doesn't "get it" then this will be the last pregnancy for sure. I'm not going to be doing all the work and making all the sacrifices. He did quit smoking the day I got my positive test. I am proud of him for that. I've had to put up with his bad moods, but they will eventually get better!
	Comment from lala_0412 » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 10:36am it's hard being the sober one when we are pregnant. We get so easily annoyed with their actions. Your husband seems like a great guy otherwise. Maybe when baby gets here and the fall/winter comes he will simmer down. We all deserve one night to have fun. Like I said it's just harder when we're with child and they are acting like a child. lol. My ex was an alcoholic and it never stopped it was a daily thing. Which is no good. The drinking and driving I understand your anger. Why risk your life and others when you can just call a cab. Let him know girl!!
	Comment from pbc910 » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 10:36am Sorry you're having this problem with your husband. I'm having a similar situation, except with smoking. It's not as bad as driving after drinking but the stubbornness on his part is getting annoying. Only so many times you can tell a person, "if you don't stop...." I'm not sure why anyone would think it's appropriate to smoke in the car with their pregnant wife. Especially MY car! Hopefully he'll listen and try to change his behavior.
	Comment from Basia30 » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 10:33am ughhhhhh guys can be so stupid... My husband loves to drink with his parents (sometimes a lot) and I need to tell him from time to time that "nope honey you can't have a drink today" It bothers me but at least he listens to me when I tell him not to drink.
	Comment from HzlGreenEyes » Posted Aug. 19, 2015 9:55am It is alarming to know how many men think that way. My dad was the same way too and I don't know how my mother put up with that crap. I can understand having a few drinks and enjoying himself, but the over consumption I don't understand.