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My Due Date: September 19, 2014I am postpartum » My due date was more than 2 weeks ago
Age: 46 years old
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Gender Reveal and some Drama =\
By CFF1226 » Posted Jan. 27, 2014 6:05am - 257 views - 2 comments
Saturday night was my youngest sister's gender reveal party. she allowed my other two sisters to help plan and such and I was asked to bring wine for the guests last minute (I was out to dinner with DH and his sister). that was it. she invited some of her friends, and her bf's mother and her boyfriend. when my sister's bf's mom arrived she sits down on the other side of the room and says to me (who I only met ONCE three years ago) "oh Christine you look pregnant". to say I was taken aback would be an understatement. I said to her, " no I just gained a lot of weight". that is true. I gain nearly 30 pounds while ttc. I was afraid to exercise which I know is unfounded but being older I was just scared. I got depressed about ttc and I ate a lot of my feelings and without running on my treadmill after 6 months I gained 30 pounds. this woman continued on with it though! she said, "oh really? i am just saying cause you look pregnant because your cheeks are flushed and all". wtf was that supposed to mean!?!? first I never stood and was sitting the whole time so she never saw my tubbyish belly or anything. my cheeks are flushed cause you are publicly calling me out on something that I don't want you to be. I was 6w1d on Saturday. no one shows then. this woman met me one time, wth? I allowed my sister to tell her boyfriend my good news. I am guessing he told his mom and she came to the gender reveal party to be a jerk. my sister went to her bf and asked him if he told his mom and he told her no but the is no way this woman could possibly come to this party and say what she did without knowing first. I honestly believe she knew and did it to be a jerk. she never even apologized for saying it when I didn't own up to it. not even "oh my mistake". nothing. she didn't care about what she said or did at all.
it bothered me sooo much. I didn't say anything at the party because I didn't want to cause drama for my sister. I went home and bitched about it to my DH. I had bad dreams about it that night too. I want to get over it and I mostly have but it still really bothers me.
I know I can't say how I feel to my sister because I don't want to fight with her over it but at the same time I feel hurt and exposed. I am trying to move on and just focus on my first real appointment on Wednesday.
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Gender Reveal and some Drama =\
By CFF1226 » Posted Jan. 27, 2014 6:05am - 257 views - 2 comments
Saturday night was my youngest sister's gender reveal party. she allowed my other two sisters to help plan and such and I was asked to bring wine for the guests last minute (I was out to dinner with DH and his sister). that was it. she invited some of her friends, and her bf's mother and her boyfriend. when my sister's bf's mom arrived she sits down on the other side of the room and says to me (who I only met ONCE three years ago) "oh Christine you look pregnant". to say I was taken aback would be an understatement. I said to her, " no I just gained a lot of weight". that is true. I gain nearly 30 pounds while ttc. I was afraid to exercise which I know is unfounded but being older I was just scared. I got depressed about ttc and I ate a lot of my feelings and without running on my treadmill after 6 months I gained 30 pounds. this woman continued on with it though! she said, "oh really? i am just saying cause you look pregnant because your cheeks are flushed and all". wtf was that supposed to mean!?!? first I never stood and was sitting the whole time so she never saw my tubbyish belly or anything. my cheeks are flushed cause you are publicly calling me out on something that I don't want you to be. I was 6w1d on Saturday. no one shows then. this woman met me one time, wth? I allowed my sister to tell her boyfriend my good news. I am guessing he told his mom and she came to the gender reveal party to be a jerk. my sister went to her bf and asked him if he told his mom and he told her no but the is no way this woman could possibly come to this party and say what she did without knowing first. I honestly believe she knew and did it to be a jerk. she never even apologized for saying it when I didn't own up to it. not even "oh my mistake". nothing. she didn't care about what she said or did at all.
it bothered me sooo much. I didn't say anything at the party because I didn't want to cause drama for my sister. I went home and bitched about it to my DH. I had bad dreams about it that night too. I want to get over it and I mostly have but it still really bothers me.
I know I can't say how I feel to my sister because I don't want to fight with her over it but at the same time I feel hurt and exposed. I am trying to move on and just focus on my first real appointment on Wednesday.
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from CFF1226 » Posted Jan. 27, 2014 2:18pm ahahaha!!! thanks!! DH would agree with you 110%! |
 | Comment from sillychemist » Posted Jan. 27, 2014 11:33am I always think it's funny to respond in a manner that puts the pressure back on the other person. If someone kept insisting that I was pregnant I'd probably say, "actually, yes, I was pregnant but miscarried." I know it's really mean, but gosh . . . people can really be jerks with what they say to strangers. |
