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By lovebeingmommy » Posted Feb. 14, 2015 8:31pm - 279 views - 1 comment

I just found out that a friend of mine miscarried today. We were so excited about the possibility of her getting the little girl that she wanted after 2 boys and her hubby having 2 boys as well. Our daughter are the same age and we have bonded lately over our symptoms and the fact that our babies would only be a few weeks apart. I have no idea what to say to her at this time other than I'm sorry and let me know if she needs me. I don't want to push too hard because I'm scared that she'll look at me with anger or resentment because I have no idea what she's going through. I have never miscarried and I am and have never really had any major pregnancy complications. All I can do at this point is pray for her comfort.

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Comment from Papas~Mama » Posted Feb. 15, 2015 4:24pm I think you are right about praying being all you can do. I'm sure you can say that you're so sorry for her loss but I wouldn't keep it up. I deal with the same thing from my sister. I have also never had a miscarriage or any major complications, while she has had 6 miscarriages. I don't know what that does to a person, but her obvious resentment towards me is extremely hurtful. Of course I am saddened about what she has went through. However I don't feel like I should be persecuted or treated badly for not having any issues. A lot of people seem to talk about how hard it is for people that have miscarried but no one seems to address the mistreatment of women who have healthy pregnancies and babies by these women. I'm sure it is hurtful for them, but it is also deeply hurtful to me that my sister is obviously not happy for me and even resents me for nothing that I have actively done to hurt her. Sorry you're in this situation but I understand. Best wishes to you both...