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Anyone else's DH slow to get excited?
By ThatNerdyMartinLady » Posted Mar. 27, 2015 12:21pm - 472 views - 7 comments

So my DH hasn't really gotten excited about the pregnancy yet. He says he needs to see the baby on the screen for it to be really real to him, and I can't help but be hurt at him. We went to a giant kids consignment sale yesterday but when we got there he said he didn't want to buy anything until we know for sure the baby is in there (I bought a Boppy yesterday anyway). He also doesn't want to announce it until I'm 12 weeks.

I can understand why he's nervous, he had a friend who announced it as soon as they got a positive and the baby ended up not developing. But his nervousness makes ME nervous and I just want to be happy and excited.

Is it normal for guys to react this way? I feel like I may just be being hormonal and emotional and I need to relax.

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	Comment from Kitten90 » Posted Apr. 1, 2015 5:52am My hubby was like that too. And honestly, I think most of the pregnancy he faked whatever excitement he showed me lol. As soon as our daughter was born though he cried like a baby haha <3 Everytime he held her he just kept crying and telling her how much he loved her. There's a saying that a woman becomes a mother when she finds out she is pregnant, and a man becomes a father when he sees/holds his child for the first time. I find that to be true most of the time.It's a bit harder for them to /fully/ grasp the situation because they aren't the ones growing the baby. But trust me, he'll come around and get excited =)
	Comment from ThatNerdyMartinLady » Posted Mar. 28, 2015 9:28am You guys have made me feel so much better!
	Comment from eat2nourish » Posted Mar. 28, 2015 9:17am I think it's normal for the man to be cautious after he or someone he knows has had a loss. Mine is the same way. He's excited, but don't want me to continue to tell others & doesn't want to buy anymore baby clothes except the onsies we already bought. He's waiting on the amnio results. I know how you feel, it makes me a little sad, too, but I think some men take things harder than others &/or are trying to protect us wives from a possible heartache. Give him time, he'll be ecstatic!
	Comment from mogchi » Posted Mar. 28, 2015 8:12am I am 8 wks and I still don't believe it myself. We did tell people only because I can't keep my mouth shut. DH seems more excited than I do....I think everyone is just different and when it hits them is different too. Also hormones. Omg. My feelings get hurt so easy now, I am always crying!!!!! Hahaha.
	Comment from rcorinne » Posted Mar. 27, 2015 5:42pm Unfortunately, normal. DH had a hard time being excited with my first pregnancy until the gender scan. He was a nervous wreck about the baby's health and didn't want to tell anyone about the pregnancy for a long time. Fortunately he is better this time around. I think guys have a lot of fears about what they can't control.
	Comment from ThatNerdyMartinLady » Posted Mar. 27, 2015 12:40pm Thank you, I know I normally wouldn't be as upset about it normally, I just can't help but feel really sad about it. Probably just the hormones.
	Comment from stickybean1976 » Posted Mar. 27, 2015 12:31pm I think he is completely right in his way of thinking and is perfectly normal for a the man or the woman to think. I don't think its real myself until your've seen the baby developing and in the ultrasound screen and I didn't announce until after 12w either but then I'd had 4 losses in a row after seeing heartbeats in 12mths prior to this preg. For men it can be a visual as their body is not feeling changing or experience the pregnancy. He is 100% normal in his feelings and reactions. Best of luck and give him time, it's still extremely early days :-)