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I can identify with the feeling. I sometimes feel that friends and relatives who have baby showers are very greedy, asking for $30 crib sheets, $50 bags of diapers, fancy decorations and the like when cheaper things would do just as well. Personally, my family are rather poor and so are my friends, and I am not having a baby shower at al as I wouldn't feel right with asking them to give me stuff. We are buying everything used, and it's really not very expensive to pick up the basics that way. I figure, I was a second child and absolutely everything I got was a hand-me-down, so what's wrong with starting that way? :) It's just my two cents, but I don't see the need for new and expensive things when cheaper stuff will do and I can totally see your point.

Not everyone is like that...BUT i can understand where youre coming from. A certain relative of mine just recently had her baby. After her babyshower her and her husband bitched and moaned about people not "following the registry" WHAT A BUNCH OF UNGRATEFUL BRATS!!!!!! One of our mutual friends could not make it to the shower, so my relatives sister told her THATS FINE, JUST DONT FORGET TO SEND YOUR GIFT! People like that make me sick to my stomach, and i wish i could take back the stuff i bought for them! They acted the same way after their wedding, and i should have known better!

As my mother says, the registry is a guideline for people that arent sure of what to buy, so i dont think there is anything wrong with a registry as long as you have items of different price points on there.

I agree with addie02 this is kind of offensive. I had a baby shower for my 1st and I intend to have one for my 2nd child NOT for the gifts as u Rudly seem to think people have them for but because it is a way of celebrating a new life coming into the family at the shower I said to every guest when they rang their RSVP your presence is required not your presents however each person still brought something small like and outfit or facewasher a or books or toys for DD the shower I did hAve was only one side of my family as my mother does t get along with my fathers side but I never had the chance to have my second shower as my DD was born early and I was deathly ill . I insisted that all of the women that did come share insight and knowledge that got written into a book for my to keep this was all I expected from them knowledge from the previous generation .i intend on doing the ame thing for this baby and while we have got almost everything from our DD.

I agree with a couple of the posts that this post is kind of a rude assumption of people. As I realize that there are a lot of rude and selfish people in this world, but just because someone is receiving a baby shower does not mean they are those people! In my next of the woods, all my friends and family have received showers for all their children. And I can honestly say that I know NONE of them expected it or acted selfishly about it! I threw a shower for all my nieces and nephews because I want to celebrate every single beautiful miracle! A shower is for celebrating a LIFE! Thats a big deal to me! I don't feel the least bit "put out" for buying a gift for a dear friend or family member in this situation! My Mom, sister, and SIL are throwing me a shower for my 2nd baby. I didn't ask them too nor did I EXPECT it! I will not register for anything ridiculous of course and no one I know would! I feel honored and blessed that they want to celebrate my sweet baby!

I am from England and I don't here of that many people having them over here, my whole life I have known 1 person to have one, but she bought her own pram , cot etc she just asked for clothes.
I personally couldn't do it myself but I understand if people are really skint, and maybe they have no family who can help. luckily for me my mum buys 1 big thing my partners mum buys one big thing and we just get all the rest on our own - I would starve before I asked my friends and family for expensive things but thats just me, I understand where u r coming from though.