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Asked by bonitta

Q: Mommies, I need all of you to enlighten my mind with your heartwarming advice for me.

Mommies, I'm 20, I tried to abort this fetus at 5 weeks but I didn't bleed. I regret what I did because I really didn't want to do it, I was just scared and not ready. I'm still pregnant at 8 weeks now, I heard my baby's heartbeat at 141 bpm and is growing its size which was the most special thing I ever known. I'm still worried of how can this affect my future and my life especially that the father of this baby is not talking to me anymore, how can I still succeed having a baby, would it destroy my career and life? My MIND says not to keep the baby because it will destroy my entire life but my HEART says keep the baby and even though I'll have ups and downs with it, this baby will give me priceless happiness I could ever have. My family supports me, are excited, wants me to keep the baby, they are all praying for the baby's healthy and normal life in the future. Please enlighten me with your heartwarming advice. Is continuing my pregnancy at 20 a good thing even as a single mom?Thanks

This question was asked Jan. 30, 2014 3:28am
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Answered by gotababylady - Jan. 30, 2014 9:28pm
When I was 15 I had my first child. I didn't feel like I could handle it. My boyfriend quickly exited the picture and my family wasn't there for me. I chose adoption. It was a hard choice but one I have never regretted. My son has a very loving family that was ready and able to take care of him when I was not. I hope that if you decide that you can't handle parenting that you too will find a family the is ready and waiting to be parents to your child as well.

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Answered by Sunny33 - Jan. 30, 2014 5:59pm
Don't ever let anyone convince you that your decision to try and abort was wrong. It was your choice and no one else's. People might not agree with it but that doesn't change the laws. With that being said, it didn't work and now you face different obstacles. I had my son when I was 19. Life takes a huge 180. There is no partying there is no going to house parties and the dating scene changes emensly but it won't ruin your life. Being a single mom is very tough but it's also very empowering. I went back to college when my son was two and got my nursing degree. It was a huge struggle but it's not unacheivable. You just have to have drive and motivation. I think that if you truly look into your heart you will know what's best for your baby. If you don't think you can give them the live they deserve have an open adoption where you can still visit your little one and if you think you can step up to the plate then commit to that little one and give it all the love it deserves. :)

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