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Hi, I'm Bailey. I had my first ultrasound the other day. I'm 6 weeks along and I'm due September 9th. I'll be 17 when I have my baby and will still have a semester left of high school. Every time I see a commercial with babies and kids in it, it just really depresses me. Because I'm going to be having a kid so young. I feel so terrible bringing a baby into the world without having a dad. I'm afraid that I'm going to be alone for awhile because of this.. I have a lot of support from my friends, mom and family, but I'm still doubtful that I can really do this.. I'm still just a kid myself.. Some days I'm sort of excited to have a baby, and other days, I'm extremely depressed and want to terminate the pregnancy (which I can't afford). My job is only giving me 7-8 hours a week.. I definitely cant afford to have this baby if I cant afford an abortion.. I don't know what to do or what to think to try and feel better. I hate myself more and more everyday. This is exhausting... Any advice? :(

This question was asked Jan. 18, 2015 4:49am
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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by Papas~Mama - Jan. 19, 2015 6:41pm

You need to seek counseling. I disagree with other people, this is an OPINION forum and you're going to get some. Especially when you talk about wanting to have an abortion. EVERYONE on this website WANTS their babies and many have tried for years and years to do so. You talk about going through months of pain being pregnant(which doesn't even make sense, it's not constantly painful by any means)? How about the years of mental pain and anguish you're going to go through regretting killing another human being? I don't care what anyone else says, that's exactly what abortion is. There are many things you can do to improve your situation. Seek counseling, find another job, finish school. You put yourself into this adult situation and you need to take responsibility for that. Pray for guidance. Abortion can f*ck up your body and your mind. You would regret it.

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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by tjwjtw21 - Jan. 18, 2015 7:04pm

I have to agree with most everyone else- I think you need some professional help before making any decisions. There are ways to accomplish your goals and still be a mom. I've been there. I was a high school drop out (not sue to pregnancy), pregnant at 19 from a one night stand and even had a criminal record at one point. I was able to go to college and obtain a nursing degree. I am a single parent who has support from my mom and no one else. Yes, times were tough and hard, but all worth it in the end. I have 2 beautiful boys that are 14 and 5, and now I'm expecting twins. Now, with twins coming- I sometimes find myself thinking like I did when I was 19 and pregnant- "how will I do this???", but I remember I am only dealt what HE feels I can handle. Is it always easy?? NOT AT ALL. But we make it and life is good for my kids and I. I own my car, a brand new home and have an education- all things I've done while being a single parent. Continued in next postâ?&b

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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by Bumpin4Baby - Jan. 20, 2015 7:20pm

I hate to be so blunt, but you felt like you were adult enough to have sex and with having sex, pregnancy is a huge possibility. Just think of that little heartbeat inside of you. That heartbeat will love you more than anyone else could. I know you are only 16 and immature, but you can make a beautiful life for yourself and your baby. Why be worried about a boy not wanting you bc you will have a baby? If he doesn't want ALL of you then he isn't worth it in the first place. Besides, you have more important things to be worried about right now rather than a new boyfriend. I myself, think that there is nothing as beautiful as a mother that loves her children and a single mom showing the world that she CAN do it and don't need a man to do it for her is very empowering. Don't make a choice that you will regret. TONS of women can't have children and would love to adopt your precious baby if that is what you felt that you needed to do. That baby deserves a chance at LIFE.

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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by Bailher - Jan. 18, 2015 5:34pm

I dont have the strength or money to support a baby. I had plans.. I was going to join the military and become a nurse.. If I keep the baby, I will never be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. And there's no way I'm going through months and months of pain and misery just to destroy my body and give somebody else my baby. I just cant. I know that sounds selfish.. but I'm 16. Of course I'm going to be concerned about my body. I mean I'm already overweight and unattractive enough as is, why would i want to just ruin it even more? I feel bad for feeling and saying all this but I cant stop. I cant view this any differently. There is literally NOTHING good about being 16 and pregnant from a one night stand.. I'm never going to get a man. I'll never be able to go to college. I'll struggle and be unhappy my entire life, just like my mom did and god, I do NOT want that..

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Answered by lyssa7872 - Jan. 18, 2015 6:24am

I really encourage you to go to your local pregnancy help center and talk to them. Being pregnant really doesn't cost much money, it's the deliver that does. The pregnancy help center should be able to go over options with you for adoption and abortion, though personally I would encourage adoption. There are MANY MANY agencies all over the country that can help you. My husband and I just had our 2nd baby and are thinking of adopting in a few years. There is no shame in trying to give your child a better life, even if it isn't with you. However, I also encourage you to keep the baby to see if you decide to keep it. We women are strong, and the natural bond we have with our babies is strong. I have no doubt you could make it work, but it's okay if you don't want to and are scared. Get some info, and please don't make any sort of decision you will regret without talking to someone who can help.

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