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The last couple of weeks, I've felt really mean towards DH. His days off, he seems to want to do nothing (or close to nothing) and it just gets to me so bad! He works 3 days on, 3 days off- I work Mon-Fri. There is so much to be done around the house its not funny, but he just thinks he can lay around and do nothing.
If he does do anything, it is done half-assed. Last night I asked him to help me finish painting the nursery (that my brother and I did 99% of) and he acted like he didn't want to do that either. This baby was planned (we went to a RE and everything), he was super excited to hear the heartbeat(and asks to hear it often with our doppler), but I don't know what to do anymore about the laziness! I'm the one who is pregnant, not him! It's getting to the point that I like the days that he works and is gone, better than the days hes home :( HELP!!

This question was asked May. 15, 2012 5:35pm
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by Leniana - May. 17, 2012 2:42pm
I think this is pretty normal on both sides. Women get a pretty strong "nesting" instinct and we want things DONE and we want them DONE RIGHT. We need our nest in order and it needs to be done yesterday! There's a lot of urgency in it and we feel like OMG this baby could come anytime and I am NOT READY! Meanwhile, the guy is sitting back like "What? We have x more months/weeks to go... there's loads of time." I am currently going through this with my hubby LOL. I think a lot of guys also realize that a new baby is a lot of work, so they are trying to get their "slack" on and over with before hand. He may also be feeling very overwhelmed about being a Dad.

I don't have a good answer for you but talk to him and let him know how you are feeling; maybe he will tell you what's on his mind and realize that he can't just put everything off til the last minute; nor should he be expecting you to do all the prep work.

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Answered by Dylsmommy - May. 15, 2012 7:52pm
This made me feel better, like I wasn't being taken for granted....

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Answered by Dylsmommy - May. 15, 2012 7:51pm
Omg! I thought I wrote this! lol I think that it is completely normal!! I was like that with my first pregnancy so much to the fact of hearing his fathers voice made me sick, still does! lol But no seriously it is probably your hormones, because I feel the same way! You are feeling under appreciated and that he isn't pulling his weight so to speak....you probably have even said it isn't fair because you have to sacrifice everything and he doesn't? Am I right? Maybe not out loud but you know you have to yourself! :) Listen don't be so hard on him or stress so much chances are that he is the same guy/way that he was pre pregnancy you are just really irriatable now and it starts to stand out! Take a deep breath and really focus on what you can change. Maybe make compromises... "honey I will do dishes if you cook" (or vice versa) "I will fold laundry if you vacuum" or you could take my route....I stopped doing EVERYTHING so when he wanted clean dishes or clothes he HAD

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