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Q: What's in a name?

So i just found out we are expecting another boy. Our first passed away at 15 weeks pregnant in July 2011... I named him Bentley Allen Howard.... And my husband and our families are seriously thinking about naming this little boy after his big brother, and after his late great grandfather. His name would be Bentley Charles Howard. I will NEVER have another Bentley Allen Howard.

Does anyone think I'm just plain stupid for wanting to do this? We have thought about other boy names but it jut doesn't feel right to not name him after his brother, to carry on his name and keep it alive in the family...

I know it's all personal choice and all, but i'd love any input you guys may have...

Thanks in advance <3

This question was asked Oct. 23, 2012 1:25am
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Answered by monroezelda - Oct. 23, 2012 7:59pm

I had a mc last year at 11 weeks so didn't know the sex, but we had the boys name and a girls name plus middle names, when I found out I was pregnant I knew there was no way I could use either one of the names, just felt odd to me, but its your personal choice as long as you and your partner are happy.

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Answered by Charlotte17 - Oct. 23, 2012 1:56pm

First of all I'm so sorry for your loss. I can understand the idea of passing the name down as an honor to your first little boy, but I would have to agree with gemma1991 and danni179 as well.

I think it could end up being somewhat painful (for you and your second son) because the baby's name would always be connected to your loss AND your second little boy. I think having that name attached to both of your boys could make it difficult to really mourn and remember your first as an individual. Reusing it also poses the possibility that your second son could feel like a replacement.

It's a personal choice so you have to do what is right for you and your family, but personally I would not reuse the name.

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Answered by zaiobaio - Oct. 23, 2012 8:56am

I agree with gemma1991 and danni179

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Answered by danni179 - Oct. 23, 2012 7:47am

Personally I wouldn't have the same name, but thats my preference. I think this baby should not be compared to the last and visa versa. Give each of your children their own identity.

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Answered by gemma1991 - Oct. 23, 2012 7:26am

so sorry for you lose think it nice that u want to keep the name going but my personal feeling i would not choice to have it as a 1st name again maby a middle name or somethink
i would see it as this baby is a complet diffarent baby and wouldnt want it to have it brother name sorry wasnt trying to be harsh but that how i feel on it i would have it as a middle name thought x

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Answered by mamabear101 - Oct. 23, 2012 1:56am

That is not silly at all!! How amazing will it be when your child ask where he got his name from... you've created an instant bond with two. Charles Allen will undoubtedly your childs gardian angle so it's very appropriate for them to share the same name. So beautiful.

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Answered by LalaRiley - Oct. 23, 2012 1:33am

I think its sweet, and a good way to keep the name in the family, as you said.

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