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Not many guys would marry after their gf becomes pregnant... he's ready to take on that role which says a lot about his character. Just because it's not your typical 1 year dating realtionship doesn't mean the two of you can't be a strong couple and family. I have a friend whos been dating the same guy for 7 years... he poped the question and she's still unsure!! All I have to say is make sure your hormones aren't fogging up your brain... that is also what might be causing extra doubt. Enjoy the ring on your finger and the bump on your belly!

I agree with everyone else and I will tell you this much. I have been with my husband for eight years. We got engaged after 5 years of dating and were engaged for 2 years and we have been married for almost two years. I felt so much stress and emotions trying to plan a wedding...and I wasn't even pregnant! Take it slow and enjoy this part of your life. There is no set time for when you have to set a date and get married. Also, enjoy every moment together as you take on this journey of becoming parents. Capture the moments and focus on the present. Worry not about tomorrow, for all things will come together at the right time.

Aww thats sweet! It does seem pretty quick to get married but it does show great commitment to you and baby. I would say yes but perhaps have a long engagment to make sure in a year or two you both still feel the same way. Yes to engagment but dont rush into a wedding!

I agree with the previous answer. You don't need to get married right away. Have a long engagement if you like and see how things go with the pregnancy and when baby is here. If you still have doubts maybe talk about them.

If it were me, I would go ahead and keep the engagement if you could see yourself marrying him, but I wouldn't make any wedding plans for a long time. I would want to see how he handles the pregnancy and the baby and make sure that we have a solid future together before moving ahead with any wedding plans. But just because you're engaged doesn't mean you have to set a date and commit to plans anytime soon. I wouldn't make any decisions during the pregnancy because it can be such a stressful (and hormonal) time. I would consider the engagement as a symbol that you guys are planning to stay together and be a family but you don't have to make the wedding official right away.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and engagement!

Have a long engagement. You don't want to say and know you got married only because you are pregnant. I'm glad your boyfriend is doing the right thing though.........that's a great guy you have. I hope it all works out for you! Congrats!

My friend got engaged while she was pregnant.
they got married when the baby was 11 months old.
I think it's a great idea.
The engagement alone will give you a strong sense of unity.
Save the stress and planning of a wedding til later and you'll get to enjoy the wedding more when you aren't pregnant.

I agree with the previous comments. My husband and I knew very early that we wanted to get married, but we waited a year to get engaged and then another year to get married. We were only 19 so it was still young in a lot of peoples opinions. If you are happy with your relationship now, then there is no reason to worry about it. Just wait until after pregnancy is over to start planning. That extra time will help you feel more comfortable. Congratulations!

I was telling my dh the other day how difficult pg is on a relationship, and we've been together 7 years! It's only been 4 months, keeping the engagement is fine but I would wait 1-2 years at least before getting married. Pregnancy puts a lot of pressure and more responsibility on the father so it's harder if you're still getting to know each other during that time. Be happy he is stepping up and being a man, just be smart and don't rush into anything!

Congratulations! :D As the other posters have said, take it slow. You're in a very stressful situation: a relatively new relationship, newly pregnant (with all the hormones that go with it!), and a new engagement on top of it all. I think it would be weird if you *weren't* feeling confused about it all! I would just leave everything as it is, enjoy being both pregnant and engaged, and not worry about getting married too soon or trying to figure stuff out for sure right now.