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I feel like women give their precious babies a deadbeat dad's last name just to try and convince them to be around. and then surprise surprise when that doesn't work. if they want to be involved they would be, a last name isnt going to win them over.

My best friend was given her fathers last name, and he was terrible to her and her mother (they were not together). She always hated having that last name because it reminded her of the bad side of her family and made her feel like they didn't care about her even though she was obviously part of them. If he doesn't want to be involved, don't make him be. Give the baby your last name.

Oh you should only use your last name, not his.

I am WITH the father of my child, and we planned this newborn baby, and we have the most amazing relationship, and we never fight, and we've been together years now, I still wont give him Brian's last name until he marries me. Yup. The birth certificate has my last name, and it wont change til I have a ring on my finger. I was married to my first son's dad, and hell, he didnt even deserve me giving the baby his name!! i should have given Will my last name, jusst knowing what a total sh*t that husband was. The long and the short of it, obviously, is that we got divorced and he disappeared into the sunset, and I had to have my childs name changed to mine. Now, my new infant, my 4 year old, and I share the my last name. If daddy wants to change babies last name to his, i better be gettin married, and he better be adopting my son too, because im not leaving him out. Until ur baby daddy proves otherwise, it should be your last name. If he marries you, you can always change it.

My opinion is the child should have the last name Green. No matter what,that's the father of that child. You never know once the baby is here he might actually step up and want to be in its life. I dnt know how far along you are but just give it some time; you both might need a little space. Just stay positive:) whatever happens things will work out for the best even if you dnt understand why

And also I really like Piper for a girl and Zeke, as long as you like it that's all that matters. I've always thought it sounded a little strange for a child but that could be because I have a dog named Zeke. You have plenty of time to decide though! :)

I agree with Kenpo. I got pregnant a few years ago with a boyfriend and immediately knew (even though we were still together) that I was gonna give the baby my name since I knew I didn't want him anywhere near my child after it was born. I was young and dumb and that pregnancy was my wake up call, but everything happens for a reason and I miscarried fairly early and left him soon after. So a little different from your situation but you get the point, if he doesn't want the kid, don't make him part of the kids name. My dad didn't want me, and it had nothing to do with paternity tests and my parents weren't young either. My mom gave me her last name which I'm grateful for. I'm a part of her family, not his and I don't want to be. It's up to you if you think he'll ever be a REAL dad, but if not... that's your answer! Good luck and whatever you choose will be the right choice. No one can tell you you're wrong.

I guess I should clear up that we broke up a month before I found out I was pregnant....so in his defense we were not together.

I would not give my baby the last name of a man who obviously wants nothing to do with it. I made that mistake with my first son 14 years ago and am now in the process of changing it. A real man sticks around to care for the baby of the woman he loves regardless of whether or not its his. My husband is in the process of adopting my older son now because he loves him as his own. Thats why i'm changing my son's last name, so it's the same as my husband's and mine. It sounds like your baby's father is just using the "its not mine" excuse to take off on you. He doesn't deserve to have his name bestowed on your child and your child doesn't deserve to be burdened with it.