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Q: warming child up to pregnancy and being an older sibling..

my duaghter will be 4 tomorrow and is the only child.im 12 weeks and 4 days pregnant.

she has seen my ultrasound pic and ask when the baby is coming and rubs my belly.i plan to take her to my ultrasound when we find out the sex of the baby and will let her help me pick out clothes for the baby.she seems to be taking to the idea pretty well.

but im just wondering what other mommies expereinced with older siblings and a new pregnancy/baby being born.any other tips?

This question was asked Dec. 29, 2012 5:31am
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Answered by july2013mommy - Jan. 1, 2013 2:17am

thank you lavena.i like that you let older sibling come to doc appointments.i am going to start doing that now that im 13 weeks today.wanted to make sure i was out of the miscarrige stage for sure

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Answered by july2013mommy - Jan. 1, 2013 2:17am

thank you lavena.i like that you let older sibling come to doc appointments.i am going to start doing that now that im 13 weeks today.wanted to make sure i was out of the miscarrige stage for sure

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Answered by july2013mommy - Jan. 1, 2013 2:14am

thank you looney.your son was def a part of the pregnancy in a big way.he was there for everything.love the advice of not getting mad when sibling is crying becuase thats thier only way of communication

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Answered by july2013mommy - Jan. 1, 2013 2:13am

mrsmlcmama i like your idea with your son.its really cute.thank you

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Answered by mrsmlcmama - Dec. 31, 2012 5:17pm

I have a 2 and a half year old, I made a book talking about the arrival of the baby. He and I made it together with real pictures of us and what we will do. Also there will be a gift from the baby to its older brother when my son first comes to meet the baby in the hospital (recommended on a lot of parenting sites). I have identified some jealously hot spots, and made effort to have a different colored towel for bath time and a different grooming kits, since that is special mommy/son time. My son will also be enrolled in t-ball this spring, so that he has a special big boy activity. I think past that the best thing you can do, is be honest. I plan on explaining to my son that sometimes the baby gets help first, because the baby CAN'T help themselves. Then also reminding my son of the special things he gets because he is older (like pancakes). Good luck!

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Answered by looney - Dec. 29, 2012 6:30am

My son was almost 4 when i got pregnant. I told him there was a baby in my tummy. He asked how it would come out. i told him exactly how it would come out. I never lie to him. I asked if he wanted to see a video. So I showed him a 3d animation on youtube. he asked to see what it would really look like, so i found birth videos. he was content with that. a few days later he asked HOW the baby got in there. So I told him about sex. When his brother was born he asked to watch, so he did. he then helped the midwife measure him. the other assistant midwife took him to the kitchen and taught him about my placenta she was checking. It was a great experience I got to share with him.

He is now the best big brother i could have imagined. one of the first lessons i taught him about his brother after he was born was "you never get mad at a baby for crying. it's the only way they can communicate". he has so much love for baby, even when he is screaming crying he tries comforting him.

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Answered by lavena3 - Dec. 29, 2012 5:42am

well this is my 3rd but when i had my lil bot my lil girl was 5 she was so happy just letting her be part of all of it and you should do great my son is very happy about his lil sister on the way and he is 6 now i am doing the same with him i show him weekly updates how the baby is growing and if he has a ? i cant answer i let him ask my doctor she has been great with that support just letting them know they are still importent and that you love them really dose help but when they get bigger the will fight over everything lol i know first hand

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