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It can be confusing. You wonder, are they having a baby now because they feel competitive with you? Or is it because they want to have a baby? Is it about the attention? Or about the miracle that happens? Do they want to make sure their kids have cousins the same age? Or do they just want to make sure you aren't special? And you need to ask yourself these same questions about your feelings to decide if you're heart is in the right place. There's always enough love to go round for another baby :) The positive: You'll have someone to share the experience with and cousins for your kid to play with. The negative: Grandma and Grampa will have to buy more presents at christmas. They may pick favorites and the favorites might not be your kids. Then again, that could happen even if they were born years apart, so the timing doesn't matter so much. Personally, I was eldest of all my cousins and relegated to the babysitter role. I missed out on having cousins to play withas friends

I'm not in the exact same situation, but my sister got pregnant 7 months before me and she would not talk about it on facebook (the only way we talk) because she got pregnant with a guy she was cheating with and it seemed like after I got pregnant, she started talking about her pregnancy all the time. We worried about an ectopic and twins at the beginning and she immediately would be like "Oh yeah, I think I'm having twins too." Even thought she was 8 months along. It's frustrating, but you just gotta ignore it and enjoy your pregnancy.

it happened to me twice lol everytime a got pregnant my brother and his wife mostly her got pregnant at the same time first time she really wanted a girl and had a boy just like me i was overjoyed because i was looking for a boy, second time around 3 months apart of course she got pregnant again hoping for a girl again she had another boy and i had my girl hahaha (not making fun) just i felt so bad at the moment! so i decided to get the paraguard inserted and she decided to get it too. now i got pregnant with paraguard with another girl !!! and you guys should see her face lol. all im trying to say it's don't worry about them just enjoy your pregnancy and good luck to you!! just a little of my story :P

I think its normal to feel the way we feel though, i wouldn't beat yourself up over it. Whether we like to admit it or not, we like the attention to be just on us for just a short while!

When i got married last year, i had two other family members get married too! I felt like i was getting jipped somehow. In the end, when the time came, i actually didn't feel like anything was taken away from me. I can only assume that this would be the same way when it comes to having babies :)

the way i look at it, its not you..its them!

My older sister has been making snide remarks since i got pregnant (all not in earshot of me though, my brother tells me what she says). Then she goes and buys me stuff for the baby! My mom tells me just to let it go because i have to understand what she must be feeling. Yeah, i do understand, and id probably feel similar to her if the shoe was on the other foot, but my life choices have led me to be in a stable relationship with a great man..hers have not. To have a baby just because you feel that you HAVE to is not the right way to go about doing things. Yet, its her life and if she wants to choose to be this way, so be it.

As for my other family member, i don't care if she feels the way she feels. Again, i think its just sad. It really is no surprise to me that she would do that (long history of this type of behavior). I already resent her for alot of past issues, so its not a big deal to me.

Thats awful. I feel for you. I can imagine how frustrated you feel Nesssicle. What do we say to these people? I dont want to go through the rest of my pregnancy resenting them....

Id feel the same as you. The "pressure" is on for alot of people now that im pregnant..or at least they seem to think so. I have a family member who was "under the impression" that my DH and I were having trouble conceiving because it took us 5 months (oh please) so she thought she had plenty of time to have one before me. When mentioning her having a baby, she would reply with IM IN NO RUSH. As soon as we announced our pregnancy, the look on her face was horror and now she is in a mad dash to get pregnant!

Same thing with my sister. She is older than me and i know she is trying with her boyfriend now that ive become pregnant. She'd never admit it to anyone, but Ive seen the signs!

Its a shame people feel the need to get pregnant just because someone else did.

My partner and I haven't announced our pregnancy yet and they are saying it all over Facebook about thinking of trying. My best friend and i are pregnant together only 6 days apart so we will be enjoying our pregnancies together. My Ds and this child will and already do have children of the same age. there is already 5 grandchildren all under the age of 6, the youngest 3 months so having someone of the sameish age should be difficult. I cant help but feel a surge of jealousy.

I think you are being a little sensitive, it will be great for your baby to have a cousin so close in age. I got pregnant with my first daughter when my SIL was "trying". I wasn't trying to steal her spotlight! I just wasn't as open with everyone about "trying" as she was. I'm sure your brother and his GF have no idea that you feel this way. A lot of women try to get pregnant at the same time because its so fun to be pregnant together. It will still be special for your partner and ds even if she does have her baby a few months after you.

i went through the same thing with my brother and his wife. they got pregnant a couple months after i did, except with twins!!way to steal the spotlight... i actually delivered already and she even "had contractions" the entire time i was in the hospital having my little one. i think she was a bit jealous that i had the attention for a while. she certainly wasnt in real labor.