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thanks for sharing ure opinions and experiences.after having a good think about it i decided not to go.i phoned my friend today and did nt even have to explain.he told me that for my sake my head should nt be in that space so far into my preg.he told me to consintrate on myself and knew that i would be there if i could.bless themand then told me he would like to give me all the nappies and unused items they had for their baby.god help them over the next couple of week.i have told them when i have twins i would catch up over a cup of coffee on my own and have a good chat with them,i only wish i could do more...

I lost my baby girl around 7 months ago she was still born at 33 weeks, my friends were either pregnant or had recently had their bubs, I invited them but requested no kids/ babies as that wld have been to much for me, at no point did I ever expect my friends to come if they cldnt find a baby sitter, I understood, it's a really hard thing to ask people to go thru, the death of a baby is unexplainable and the funeral is just as hard, I know from my experience that if my friend was in late pregnancy with twins there wld be no way I wld expect her or hold a grudge if she decided against attending, it wld sadden me but I wld understand. In the end I never really focused on who came to my daughters funeral( I appreciated everybody who came) but I was so distraught knowing that that was the last time I wld see my girl that that consumed my every thought, nothing cld console me. But every body is different, all u can do is explain to ur friend and hope he understands :,-(

I don't think you're horrible if you don't attend the funeral. Most drs advise against a lot of travel in late pregnancy & most airlines won't let you fly this late. As a mom, you often have to put your children's needs before others, & I am sure your friend will understand this. I am so sorry for your friend's loss. That is something no one should ever have to go through.

I think you should try to go with your gut, but while contemplating your little ones also....If you've been putting too much on yourself as of late you need to turn that around ASAP as it is NOT healthy for you or your babies. You can either do what you can from a distance to be supportive and a true friend would understand your situation and why you can't make it....or you need to be in a better spot mentally before doing the travel and going through all of that...Personally from what you are saying it may be best to stay back but I also know how I'd be in your shoes and wanting to be there for my friend....Question is, how would you feel if something bad did happen to you if you went? No body would want to risk that either...Tough spot girl, I'm sorry for your friend, I can't imagine. Would you have to fly? If you are a praying woman, I'd pray on it to search for answers on what to do. Sorry if I'm not much help