Answered by MrsElvin - May. 28, 2014 3:02pm
you don't get addicted to cocaine, its not like smoking or heroine. some people become obsessed with the high you get when you take it. you could help him by replacing the high with an emotional high. unless its crack cocaine then he would need to get a different drug to replace the crack. I think it would be best if you asked him what the drug acc is. seems to me if it is just cocaine then you are probably wasting your time as he wouldn't be addicted and would just be being selfish.
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Answered by lyssa7872 - May. 22, 2014 2:13pm
It's an addiction, not just a simple choice. He needs to get help. Maybe do some online research for rehabs near you and call one? They may be able to give you some advice on how to get him there to the help he needs. You can also call your local law enforcement and ask them what to do for someone who needs help but won't take it. Most cops aren't bad, hard ass people, and just want to help the person in need. Doesn't mean you have to give them all the details :) Also...keep talking to people!! It will help you stay sane. Sending healthy helpful vibes your way! I hope it gets worked out for you all :)
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Answered by lyssa7872 - May. 22, 2014 2:13pm
I don't think leaving is always the only option, but sometimes a temporary different living situation may be good. Like Eag said, it would be very bad for all involved if something happened to the baby, or cops were involved, but I don't think just splitting up permanantly is neccessary if you don't want to do that and he accepts treatment. I don't think you're stupid for forgiving him. However, seems to me he cant just go on saying he won't do it, and doing it again.
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Answered by eag923 - May. 22, 2014 2:30am
Again, I am so sorry you are having to live this. It isn't fair to you, but drug addicts aren't known for being fair. There is a lot of issues to consider if he does continue to use: having drugs in the house, being high around his kids, safety issues, dealing with the law. You don't want him to get busted for drugs around the kids because you could get pulled into the whole sordid affair. I do wish you the best of luck. Hopefully, he will get his act together and get some help!
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Answered by eag923 - May. 22, 2014 2:27am
First off, let me say that I feel terrible that you are having to go through this. It is hard to love an addict. I have relatives that have dealt with their own demons & it is hard to watch and live through. However, this is the situation. He is an addict. He is going to deny, lie, and tell you what you want to hear bc he is sick. He may have been the one to voluntarily chose to start using drugs, but once he got hooked, he lost the ability to say no. That being said, that doesn't excuse him from getting treatment. And this is where you are going to have to be firm. He needs treatment of some sort. I don't know how much or for how long, but he needs to talk to someone. I have known coke addicts. It gets ugly. And expensive. Personally, I wouldn't have an active drug user around my kids. Period. It would have to be 1)go to recovery or 2)get out. But that's me. I don't know your situation, etc. In the end, it is what you are willing to overlook and accept.
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Answered by dontworrybehappy - May. 22, 2014 12:24am
just to add: he is a doting, hard working father and very respectable (apart from this) and this absolutely out of character. its very easy to say "just leave" but in reality its not that easy. thanku in advance
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