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Being a recovering alcoholic myself and being married to one I can say that te journey of sobriety is a very hard one. My husband and I have both been sober for awhile, but when you drink for as long as we did you end up with alot of repercussions...and tend to be emotionally stunted. I remember always hearing that your emotional age is at whatever age you began drinking, I find that to be very true for us. Most likely he just needs to have his own journey, there's probably nothing that you can do or say. The best thing I could say is to tell him that you appreciate him being sober, and let him know that in different ways...Recovery is difficult and honestly neither of us would be as far as we are without AA. AA is very helpful in giving the needed support to recovering alcoholics. As for yourself, I dont know how much you know about but I'd highly recommend Al Anon. :) there's alot of women who have gone through and are going through the same thing. Best of luck to you on this journey

at first it was the same way for me and the father of my unborn child he was so distant from me i felt like he didnt want any thing to do with me and the baby but it wasnt that he was just dealing with his own feelings ,but one day he came to my ultrasound appt and saw the baby he look so happy and is now more involved . maybe you guys should talk about how your feeling . i hope everything works out for you too

As hard as it will be, I think that allowing him to be as much involved as he likes (and as little) may be the best option in the long run for you as a family. Alcohol addiction is a really hard thing to work through, and having a sober dad and husband will be better in the long run. A close friend of mine is a recovering alcoholic, and I watched a similar situation when he faced his addiction. He needed to detach a bit from his emotions in order to get to where he needed to be, and now a few years later he is a more loving and happy father than I can ever imagine :)

just accept it...it is very natural that the parent who experience the First pregnancy is much more excited than the one for whom it is number four. I am in a reverse situation where it is number four baby for me and number one for my husband...I can see that everything about this pregnancy is such a BIG DEAL for him while I tend to have a more relaxed, laid back approach - BUT it doesn't mean that i love this baby any less than other kids, not at all (I just have already been on this journey and familiar with it while he is discovering an UNKNOWN)