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Q: Husband doesn't want to have sex....

He says that it's weird for him now because the baby is so big now, and her head is down so he feels like she know's what's going on..... or can feel it on her little noggin.. UGH.
So.. i've got 7 weeks left of pregnancy, plus 6 weeks postpartum of no sex for recovery :( What the hell! How can i get him to get over it???

This question was asked Jun. 23, 2014 2:17pm
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Answered by lyssa7872 - Jun. 24, 2014 11:47pm

I totally get ya Claire. My advise is still to just tell your hubby how much this affects you - he may get over it when he realizes that it DOES affect your relationship, and unless you're willing to give and not get...he's going to lose out for quite a while too unless he gets over it :) Don't feel bad or strange for wanting some lovin. :)

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Answered by BabyClaire11 - Jun. 24, 2014 6:17pm

and reassuring

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Answered by BabyClaire11 - Jun. 24, 2014 6:17pm

I understand there are other ways to show love.. but we're newly weds- i'm 19 years old, I want sex. I want the closeness that sex has always given us, and i feel deprived without it. Yes, there are other ways to show love, but making love is my favorite and most satisfying for me.

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Answered by ginabee - Jun. 24, 2014 3:00pm

My doctor had to tell my husband that it was perfectly safe. He was really worried he was going to hurt our son once I was further along in the pregnancy. And even then, it was just not very comfortable for either of us and the large, moving belly was a pretty big turn off. There are plenty of other ways to show your love for each other without sex.

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Answered by maggie22 - Jun. 24, 2014 5:05am

I wish that was my husband. Im only 14 weeks and could happily never have sex again as I have been feeling awful, vomiting, tired, sore... no sex drive what so ever.

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Answered by estone - Jun. 23, 2014 10:48pm

Have your doctor tell him that it is perfectly safe!

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Answered by lyssa7872 - Jun. 23, 2014 6:31pm

I found 2 things helped my hubby with that with our son
1) we're just rocking the baby to sleep. I mean think about it - they're jossled around in there ALL DAY long. It's not that big of a deal to them. It also helps me get used to contractions, since I always get BH contractions after any sort of sexual activity
2) The only he's going to bump baby's head is by bumping my cervix pretty hard - and that HURT. By 30 weeks it was very sensitive, so we had to be a little more gentile and have him not go in as deep. But if he's not hurting me, he's not even close to bumping into the little one :)

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Answered by kaylia2oo5 - Jun. 23, 2014 4:47pm

Be happy LOL! It's just the opposite here- Ill be 31w tomorrow with twins and I want nothing to do with sex, hubby is just the opposite. He's been pretty good about it though!

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Answered by Amarylis13 - Jun. 23, 2014 2:53pm

you can't really. If he isn't comfortable with the idea then it wouldn't be enjoyable for him. Maybe compromise don't have to go all the way but he can still please you if you know what I mean ;)

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Answered by Kitten90 - Jun. 23, 2014 2:37pm

I have a couple suggestions but its kind of graphic and I'm not sure there's a polite way to say it lol

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