Questions & Answers

yes, obviously you need a foster mom for your baby.
i think.
best of luck for your up coming baby. :)

Thank you for all your positive thoughts ladies! I don't know which sad woman keeps marking all these not helpfull....but they were to me! Thanks!

Good on you. I am sure you will make it work!

If that is the sad case then I applaud you too. It's a brave and loving thing to do. Alot of people wouldn't attempt to keep the children out of the system but at the same time never feel a failure if it doesn't work out. You are willing to try and that's heroic.
I don't have any experience with what you've asked I'm afraid but my older sister had all her four children in less then a year of one another and her husband worked closely with the military so she raised them mostly alone. She done a fantastic job, it was tough and tiring but love kept her going.
Good luck x

He's the one that mentioned right away we should also take the child the mother is pregnant with now. Neither of us can stand to think that one would stay in the family and one wouldnt.

Eag - he's the only baby they have right now, she's pregnant with their second. No one else in the family has any sort of medical issues, we're a healthy bunch, and same with the husbands side of the family. It's not looking good for the parents, because as you said, with some medical stuff all it takes is one little bit of force and something can break, but we've been watching him and doing the same things with him as our son. The great grands watch our kiddo too, so we've all been on the same page, and Charlie has no new injuries since leaving his parents. :( He's also gaining weight since out of their care. He was under weight, classified as "failure to thrive" I guess. So we're kind of prepping to be the foster parents. I totally agree we are going to need help lol. That will be an adjustment, we're used to doing things ourselves, but it'll be worth it. I am SO INCREDIBLY blessed to have a husband who is so on board with all this.

AREN'T hurting that poor baby. MAJOR typo on that one!

con't - You have a tough rd ahead of u, but you're doing what is right. Honestly, I don't know how I would take care of that many small children. Some days, I can barely get a 3 yo and a 4 mo through the day in one piece! So, you're really going to need to call on the help of family and friends to get through all of this, because it is a lot. The great grands are understandably not able to be FT parents, but maybe they can babysit or take some of the kids for a day or two. You're also going to have open communication with your spouse, because having your own kids is stressful on a marriage, much less a whole new family to add to the mix. My best advice would be to not be afraid to ask for help, lean on friends, family, and your faith if you have one.

And I agree with you. It is hard to chose which is the lesser of the two evils, but I do pray that those parents are hurting that poor baby. Is he the only one with injuries? If he is, why would they abuse just the one?

I just read your journal - wow. I remember seeing a talk show several months back on kids with that type of condition and the hell the parents went through from the authorities. With one family, all it took was changing the babies diaper a little too rough and a leg would be broken. However, according to the drs, the disease is a lot more common than previously thought, and a genetic condition. Are there any other family members that tend to get injured a little too easily (there are varying degrees of the illness - from just being overly flexible to breaking major bones from what appears to be nothing) or family members that are "double jointed?" If the child does have this condition, since it is genetic, there should be (but not always) other family members that may have been misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all. That being said, it may not be an illness and may be abuse. If that's the case, I applaud you for standing up for these kids. You have a tough road ahead of