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Sounds like you need to have a sit down with Dad, Big Bro or an uncle and make them have a talk with your boyfriend because he sounds like he doesn't know what being a man is all about. You are the one that's pregnant, but he at least needs to learn the basics. Make him go to a class, if he refuses then stay on him. He'll get tired of hearing about it eventually and cave or do you a favor and get out of your life. Men don't want to talk about the same thing everyday but as long as he's understands what you went through, that should be enough and above all, you don't let yourself get stressed out about this. Happy mom makes a happy baby! Good Luck, Hope this helps!

your first baby* dunno how that got cut off but anyway. i understand why you're going nuts. id probably be flippin' my top if my bf ever tried to spin that crap. if my bf ever tried to say my bloating and gas is from eating too much, id laugh in his face and tell him he better get used to it- the complaining and the bloating and the gas because its guna be a loooooong time before it gets better. when my bf upsets me with stupid or insensitive comments, i just walk away. sit in my room, read my baby book and wait until he comes upstairs to apologize. than i tell him what he said that was wrong, why it was wrong, how it made me feel and why it hurt my feelings. sorry for the long posts, but i hope they atleast make you smile or give you some ideas :) good luck!

im prone to overreacting, so dont take this to heart but if my bf acted the way your bf does.. whoo!

1. stop doing housework. i hate men that are all "what do you even do all day?" don't do it. he'll notice. and when he asks why such and such isnt done, you can say "remember how you asked me what i do all day? well today, i didnt do it." or "im growing a human being"
2. definitely let him see when you are throwing up.
3. get pamphlets from the dr for him to read. if he refuses to read them, than id question his committment to this new child. show him videos online of developing fetuses.
4. in response to "you're not that pregnant"- than i guess we shouldn't have sex again until im "more" pregnant, you know, just to be safe.
5. friggen spoil yourself. you deserve it and you know you do. take a day off from him if you need to. go out with some girlfriends and try to enjoy yourself as much as you can. especially if this is your

Mines the same ha, if I say I feel tired or really sick, I get a WHY? Erm. Oh well never mind :)

I had dealt with the EXACT same thing. TO A 'T'! Honestly, you can't change 'em. All you can do is voice how he makes you feel and get an insert from your doctor on your trimester symptoms. Politely shove it in his face lol And if he continues to be an ass, stop doing your housework! I boycotted making his breakfast and doing his laundry because he was vilifying me for wanting to nap by 1pm......so I stopped doing so much to save energy and he had to deal with the repercussion! ;)

How is his relationship with his mother? Is your man kind of sexist? Just curious because mine has a strange relationship with his mother; he seems to feel obligated to be kind to her (ahem, that explains his insincerity with me..) and he has horribly 50's double standards regarding his opinions on what women should do, act and yada yada....All of which, I hush him on by proving him incorrect. lol But just a thought to consider how your man views women may have a lot to do with his mistreatment. GL!

I don't think my hubby really believed that I didn't feel good at all until I suddenly stopped eating right in the middle of dinner one night and threw up right in front of him lol. You're not the only one with a hubby that just doesn't get it! I got my hubby using a pregnancy app for dads on his phone that gives him daily tips and weekly pregnancy info. He likes it and it helps keep him informed about what's going on any given week of my pregnancy. Although on the 13th week the only tidbit of information he seemed to see at all was "your wife's sex drive may be returning now that she has entered the 2nd trimester"...typical man!

I don't really know how to answer this one. My husband is normally a very supportive guy, however, I don't think he was prepared for me during the first trimester. I was MISERABLE. I mean really, I was nauseated and irritable and my constant misery made him miserable, and then he was short with me and even once told me to "get in the shower you smell" (which made me cry for 45 minutes and it wasn't me that smelled it was his freaking sandwich!) What I'm trying to say is, the second trimester came and I felt better, and his behavior returned to his normal self. I think because they cannot experience the turmoil our bodies are going through, no matter how many times we tell them, it may not sink in. Hang in there!

I concur with what stickybean said =/ Sorry you are dealing with this. That's the only thing I can think of too is to keep showing him articles and maybe try to get him to talk to your doctor. I know the doctors and midwives at the place I go to are always very involved with the partners and make sure they have time to ask questions about the pregnancy too.

OMG sorry. This is not helpful but I don't see how you can change a man like that. Are you kidding. All you can do is show him literature and take him to your doctors appts and maybe he'll listen to your doctor.
Good luck Hun