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papas~mama, yeah i was trying to be sensitive, if other people don't get that, oh well, I was just trying to have a short to the point answer. but he should know asap. My father didn't know I even existed til I was 4 years old and I didn't even know about him til I was 18. and it was a hurtful thing for both myself and him, but we both have my mother to blame for not telling him sooner before she married someone and left him out the picture. So he never got to decide to be in my life or not, and now i'm left with wondering if he would have been there.

all you can do really is say "im pregnant". call him though, dont text him. unfortunately, there is no way to soften the "blow". it just is what it is. you dont NEED to be together to be successful at parenting, and there's more than one option for your child. nobody is ever really ready for a baby lol. i thought i was, but i really began to question my readiness when i found out i was pregnant the first time. and i most definitely do not feel ready for this 2nd child. but, it is what it is, and all you can do is give it an honest think through and go from there :) just because you dont feel ready, doesnt mean you or he wont be amazing parents.

Tough situation but you will get through it! My partner and I were trying but he still freaked out a little when we actually fell pregnant. Just money worries etc. but the second he saw his baby on the ultrasound monitor it turned into pure excitement. Even if things don't go like you want them to, invite him to appointments anyway. He might just come around :)

First of all, I'm sorry about your tough situation, but regardless of his reaction you sound like a strong smart woman and I'm sure you'll be fine. As the father he has the right to know and you should tell him sooner than later. I'd probably do it in a private setting and not a restaurant or something like that. Secondly, to mommyof2Nsky, your answer was very kind and plain and direct, and the way people voted about whether or not your answer is helpful or not is just frickin rude!!! I've seen it before with many questions and answers, and it's obvious that people TROLL this website just to be nasty to people who don't deserve it. It actually makes me sick. There are TROLLS TROLLS TROLLS all over this place that are just nasty people and they should go somewhere else like Youtube and talk crap to people who actually deserve it. Shove off, TROLLS!!!

I guess there is no other way to do it then to just tell him. :/ he either steps up or he doesn't. tough situation.