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Getting very anxious about delivery...
By Mommatoboys » Posted Nov. 3, 2014 6:07am - 322 views - 4 comments

The closer I get to having my 4th son the more anxious and scared I get. It's so different this time around since I have 3 other kids. I'm worried that the baby is going to decide to come either when all the kids are in school are my dh is at work and since dh works at night it will probably happen during one or the other. We have no family close by but my in-laws are going to meet us at the hospital to help watch the kids. The doctor doesn't think I'll be in labor long and my biggest fear is having the baby in the van with all the kids on the 40 minute drive to the hospital. I'm also really worried about bringing the baby home and everyone adjusting and how I'm going to manage caring for a newborn and 3 other kids ages 5 and under, trying to breastfeed, get kids to and from school and take care of everything at the house. Also 6 members of dh's family from VA wants to come up and stay with us a few days after the baby is born. I love them dearly but it's going to be so stressful on me. We live in a small 3 bedroom apt for what will be the 7 of us as it is. I know everything will work out and I shouldn't stress and just enjoy this time since it's my last baby. Hopefully all goes smoothly!

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	Comment from Mommatoboys » Posted Nov. 5, 2014 6:23am Thanks and I know this isn't my first rodeo but it does kinda feel like it since I got labor with my first son started myself and the twins were a schedule csection. This time I'm not planning on doing anything and just let it happen on it's own. Which is causing anxiety since I like to be in control and have everything planned out but I have to let all that go out the window lol. I've never been the type to really tell people how I feel if it would upset them so I doubt if I will be able to tell my in-laws not to come up. If it's just the two then that would be great since my mother in-law would help with cleaning and cooking. Just have to see how it all plays out and try not to stress about it.
	Comment from Papas~Mama » Posted Nov. 4, 2014 11:22am Yay, you're close, how exciting! Don't forget you've done this many times before and women have been doing this for thousands of years. Your body knows what to do and there's nothing to be afraid of. Regarding your in-laws, you don't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with. Sure they "want" to come, but I bet they "want" a million dollars too, and you can't always get what you want. This time is about you and baby, and you don't owe anybody anything! Tell them it will have to be some other time. Congratulations, can't wait to see your birth announcement:D
	Comment from Mommatoboys » Posted Nov. 3, 2014 10:06pm :-) thank you so much and I know I will figure it all out. You may want to take one of them up on their offer. If they could even just help with the cooking and cleaning so you could focus on the baby that would be wonderful. It would be nice if only one or two of dh's family would come up. It may just be my mother and father in-law coming up if the baby isn't born right around Thanksgiving since the other ones can't miss work and have kids in school. I just want to focus on this baby and my other 3 and enjoy every second because it goes by so fast:(.
	Comment from Kitten90 » Posted Nov. 3, 2014 7:55pm Wow! I can understand why you'd be nervous. Having 3 other kids I'm sure your labor won't be too long and just that in itself is stressful. Definitely seems like a lot of work with 4 little ones but just remember that you've already come this far and the other 3 are doing okay lol ;-) I have faith in ya <3 I agree that having extra people in the apartment would probably add to the stress... but maybe just having one around to help with the kids would be good. Maybe the 6 of them could alternate lol? I'm having the same internal struggle with whether or not to have someone here to help because 3 people have offered to stay for a week and I'm still not sure about it. I feel like I'm going to need the help where I'm a first time mom it all just seems so overwhelming