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Fine As Vintage Wine Moms (Over 35) - Pt. 4

Category: General - Pregnancy Buddies/Groups
Posted by hopefulat40 » Nov. 8, 2012 1:35pm

Hello Fabulous Ladies!

The thread was getting very long...so I thought I would start anew and a Part 4! For those that are new, Join! We'd love to have you!! We are on this wonderful journey toegether!!




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Reply by BGGirl » Nov. 8, 2012 2:46pm

Hi girls! I have been following the thread for a while but since you started a new one.. I thought I would jump in and join.

I am 38 years young having my second child. I have a 9 year old drama queen daughter who is excited about having a baby brother or sister. I am hoping that she will be a big help. Doing this pregnancy thing 10 years after the first has certainly been a challenge. This pregnancy has been totally different. Much more tired, more nausea, just more symptoms in the first trimester. I am 11w1d and having my second doctor's appointment today. DH is 4 years younger so he is not "feeling his age" as much as I am. LOL I am much more in shape now though than I was 10 year ago and hope that will help with the pregnancy. Although I have been way too tired to keep up with my workouts like I should.

I feel like I am finally starting to move past the ickyness that the first trimester has been. I am having a little more energy and less nausea but my breats are still HUGE! LOL (Sorry if TMI) Haven't moved into maternity clothes yet but I see that happening in the next three or four weeks.

So just wanted to say HI and wish everyone a happy weekend!



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Reply by hopefulat40 » Nov. 8, 2012 6:47pm

Welcome BGGirl! Congratulations! I know exactly what you mean when you say it's been a while...my youngest is 17 and graduating highschool this year! My oldest is a sophomore in college!

I haven't figured out if I am more wimpy or stronger in my older age...:)

There are a wonderful bunch of gals that are on this thread - You'll like it here.

Happy Weekend to you too!

Tara


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Reply by DestinyStarr » Nov. 9, 2012 1:57am

Hey Ladies!!!

I'm HERE!!! WOO HOO!!

Forgive my absence, but I've been desperately trying to (re)acclimate to being a new Mom. Nursing every two hours or so hasn't allowed for much else but a nap here and there, a hygiene regimen, and some light cleaning around the house.

Of course, my sweet little man is worth every minute!! He is two weeks old as of today. He was only 6 lbs, 11 oz at birth, much to my surprise, and has already gained a POUND of weight! He was 7 lbs 10 oz at his appointment today! And I have lost 20 pounds of pregnancy weight already! For some odd reason, breastfeeding didn't cause me to drop weight so fast with my DD... but I'm not looking a gift horse in the mouth! LOL

Here he is, on his birthday:
http://www.countdownmypregnancy.com/my-pregnancy/my-babyphotos_entry.php?u=1629&babyphotoid=164

And, two days ago:
http://www.countdownmypregnancy.com/my-pregnancy/my-babyphotos_entry.php?u=1629&babyphotoid=165

I'm so behind with everyone... I need to go back and read the other post and catch up. I figured I'd go ahead and post so that you guys knew that I was still rockin' and rollin' over here!

I'll catch up later... nursing time!

TTYL!!


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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 9, 2012 9:47am

Wohoo!! Destiny... congratulations again, what a beautiful boy!

Hopefulat40... No, not in Italy, but not as far away from it as you are... I am in Germany :) I only know about the Inofolic, because of my constant research on Google and I know ladies in Germany order it from Italy, too.

BGGirl... Welcome and congrats!!! Hope you had a great check-up! I am following right behind you, 10w2d today and my next OB appt is on Nov 15 (will also be 11w1d then).
I so hear you on this pregnancy being different then the last one... and mine was only about 6 years ago. Still, huge difference. The all-day nausea is annoying, I am falling asleep on the couch as soon as DS is in bed and I am feeling overall icky, constipated, fat, exhausted... Still, I am taking all this and more if this means I will have a healthy baby. I am nervous about my appt next week and hope everything will be ok.

TGIF everyone!!





Me: 43
DBF: 49
DS: 5
TTC for over a year
pregnant after IVF #3 (8w2d) D&C
IVF #4
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Reply by hopefulat40 » Nov. 9, 2012 1:14pm

Oh Oh Oh Destiny!!!
What a very beautiful baby boy! Congratulations! I know you are to the moon and back! I have been waiting to see your little man and so very glad you both are doing well!! Thank you for checking in with us!

Toronto, 11weeks? You're flying right along! :)

Good morning to the rest of the ladies...Have a fantastic Friday!

Txo




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Reply by airiesing » Nov. 9, 2012 6:16pm

Oh Des, what a beautiful baby!!! We all know those early days can be nuts! I'm not sure how I'm gonna handle it, w/ DD I went to bed when she did...that ain't gonna work this time!!!


BG & Toronto, I don't envy you those early days!!! Toronto, any better in the potty dept??

Hopeful, thanks for restarting the thread!

AFM, I think I may be on the mend. I've kept regular intervals of benedryll, tylenol & vicks (in various forms) going since about 5pm last night (after hubby got home w/ the meds) I pulled a muscle from my belly button & around to my back that hurts every time I cough or blow my nose and & popped a blood vessel in my eye so I don't look so hot, but I feel better! Thought for a while I could pop my cork quite literally!



Peace out!!
Erika

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Reply by angel197088 » Nov. 9, 2012 9:15pm

Destiny---oh my goodness, your lil man is absolutely adorable!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! (again) :)

it's amazing to see how far y'all have come, so happy for all of you as I continue to keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers (((HUGS)))

AFM--not sure exactly what is going on, have had faint +'s since 11dpo, am now 15dpo and officially 1 day late for AF...had some brown spotting for a bit on 11dpo, then that was it...waiting it out for the weekend and if no AF may breakdown and go to my ob for a blood test..


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Reply by MountainMama » Nov. 10, 2012 12:32am

Ladies, I am so tired but wanted to pop in and say I hope all are doing well. We heard little man's hb again yesterday and I am doing very well with my bloodpressure.

Going to try and finish driving home then take a nap.

More later,
MM


MM - 47 yo and pleased as punch about it
Mom to DDs (20, 17) and DS (4) , wife to the most amazing man on the planet and maybe baking our second kiddo together.


Previous pregnancy:
EDD 4-25-2012
8-16-2012
Healthy via CVS (10/2012)

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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 12, 2012 12:08pm

MountainMama... Glad to hear that everything is progressing well for you!! Already 16 weeks, omg, time is flying.

airiesing... Glad to hear you are finally getting some relief. Oh, yes - the potty pity party has resolved!! I can pee again, much to my relief, but in return, my belly seriously popped. I am having a really hard time covering it up at work. Still, will have to do so bit longer. Trying to hold off with the announcement until Nov 26 just to get some reassurance from my NT scan. I am in an IVF 40+ thread and one of the ladies was one week ahead of my and just lost her baby due to a missed m/c at 11 weeks... I don't want to announce anything until I feel that I am in safer waters...

Have a great week everyone!

xo


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Reply by airiesing » Nov. 12, 2012 2:46pm

Morning ladies!

Toronto, so glad to hear things have improved. I can't imagine having to catheter myself! Oy!

Mama, glad to hear things are moving along!

Angel, any news??


AFM, still fighting the cold but it's much much better. Sore more than anything, managed to further pull my back out so I spasm all the way around when I cough/sneeze/blow my nose but none of those are as violent as they were so at least I'm not lurching across the couch in pain now! Hubby & DD have it now too, hubby not so bad so we've been able to tag team w/ DD but I'm keeping her home from school again today (the most painful part for mommy!!!)


28 days (ish) and counting!!!!


Peace out!!
Erika

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Reply by dmartin65 » Nov. 12, 2012 4:44pm

So glad to hear all of the ladies on here are doing well. Welcome all newbies!!!!

AFM - My husband and I found a rent house and are planning on moving in the next few weeks. I am soo very excited because we have been in a 2 bedroom apartments, so now I will have a nursery for little Sabrina. However I am dreading the actual move, as we have a third floor apartment, ugggg. Hubby is not going to let me lift a thing, so I feel very bad that other than packing this is falling all on his shoulders. I wish I could just blink my eyes and we are there. LOL

Otherwise, baby Sabrina is doing fabulous. I have started my kick counting which has been fun. I am still waiting to get my results on my glucose test from last week, so I am hoping all comes back good.

Hope you ladies have a wonderful day!


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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 13, 2012 8:00am

dmartin... Congrats on renting the house!! I hear you about the packing and moving! We just signed a lease for a townhouse and will move in January. We have to move two apartments and I will have to pack before Christmas (there goes the remainder of my vacation days, sigh). I know I can't do heavy lifting, which I think will make the packing a bit more challenging for me.


Hope everyone is doing great!


Me: 43
DBF: 49
DS: 5
TTC for over a year
pregnant after IVF #3 (8w2d) D&C
IVF #4
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Reply by paradise5 » Nov. 13, 2012 4:43pm

Hi ladies, Thought I would check in with everyone and let y'all know what's been going on with me. First of all, I miscarried naturally at home a week ago today. It started quick and ended pretty quick with not much pain thank goodness. I am still bleeding a little but I can tell it's almost done so I am looking forward to seeing my periods get back to normal now. So, I finally got the phone call from my doctor last night on the blood AB Panel tests that was taken a couple weeks ago. They did find a couple of problems and was hoping that you ladies can maybe give me a little more information on them. He said that I had elevated levels of Free Protein S Activity and also Antithrombin III Activity which he said are both blood clotting disorders that will require blood thinners. He said that I could take 2 baby aspirin daily once I am pregnant again or a Heparin or Lovenox shot (sp?). He said that the Lovenox is very hard to get and very expensive and he recommended instead the Heparin shot and a baby aspirin. He told me that this might not be the 100% reasons for my recurrent miscarriages but is more than likely contributing to them along with my age and egg quality. I told him that I have completely changed my diet for the better, cutting out all sugars, flours, processed foods altogether and that I was taking Coq10, Royal Jelly, prenatal vitamins and still a baby aspirin daily. He said that was fine and wouldn't hurt but felt like my junk food eating habits over the years doesn't have much to do with it. Ok, but if my egg quality is not very good, wouldn't that have a lot to do with how I have eaten all these years? All of this is just so frustrating because I still don't have a complete definite answer. I really do hope it's just as he said and only a blood clotting disorder that will be easily taken care of once I get pregnant again. He also told me that I should at least wait til after Christmas before trying again. I told him that I was going to give it at least 3 months so that I can try to make a good quality egg in the meantime. What do you ladies think? I would love to start trying as soon as I get a good period or two but I am afraid it might be too soon and I will get pregnant using a rotten egg that is still in there. Would I be better off to give it a bit longer (3 months or more?)? I am so impatient. I just ordered the book "Impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant". Can't wait to get it. Right now I would like a bit more information on what those blood disorders consist of. It makes since that that has probably been the problem, especially the last two pregnancies that only went up to about 6 weeks and quit growing. He did tell me too though that I will need to get back on the progesterone once I get pregnant again too because he feels with my age that it's going to be low. Any thoughts on all of this ladies? Would love more information on the Heparin or Lovenox shots. DestinyStar: Your baby boy is just too gorgeous! Congratulations!!! And to the rest of you ladies: Hope everything is going so very good for all of you. I love hearing and reading everyones inspirational posts. Thanks to all!


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Reply by airiesing » Nov. 13, 2012 10:58pm

I think you're off to a good start! I'm of the opinion of trying once you get a good period or 2 passed & not waiting 3 months. At this point, just not to have to worry about it during the holidays...that being said, how many stories have we heard about couples getting their miracle when they just took it easy & had fun! Unfortunately & fortunately, eggs are pretty much just a grab bag, you can do everything right & get a bad one and, of course vise versa. The risk of not waiting a bit is not getting a "bad egg" but that the lining in your uterus may not have had adequate time to replenish and won't be lush enough or nutrient rich enough to sustain a fertilized egg. There are supplements out there recommended on helping w/ that too, of course! The best advise I ever got on getting pregnant was to live like you are pregnant which you are already doing...eating well, taking care of yourself, etc. the good part is now you know some stuff & hopefully that will take care of it. As cliche' as it may be, at least you know you have no problems GETTING pregnant. They can talk "advance maternal age" all they want but really, that's a very modern notion (ask any midwife) and while some things may very well be true in that regard we in here are all living proof to the contrary. We are all behind you!!!!! Sounds like your doc is willing to be pretty on it too!! Hooray!!


Peace out!!
Erika

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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 14, 2012 8:45am

Paradise,
I can actually comment on the blood clotting disorder!

I am currently on low-molecular heparin and ONE low-dose aspirin a day. I was also on the same regimen during the pregnancy with my son.

I have APS (anti-phospholipid antibody syndrome) and Protein S deficiency. My OB here referred my to a specialist hematologist office and they found even some other clotting issues... I will definitely continue to take Aspirin and the Lovenox throughout my pregnancy.

I suggest, that you get a referral to an hematologist to discuss this again with an expert to set the right treatment for you. It's great that your RE discovered the issues (those frequently lead to growth stop of the fetus and m/c!! and have to be treated in pregnancy), but he is not a hematologist and for the right treatment, you should consult one.

I for one have not heard about taking two Aspirin (could actually be too much of a good thing and do harm at this dose). The dose typically prescribed is 80-100 mg a day. If you have a sensitive stomach, go with the coated kind.

I am not sure about the scarcity of Lovenox. Here in Germany it is sold under the brand name of Clexane, every pharmacy carries it. I wonder if there are other manufacturers / trade names.

It is important that you take no regular heparin, but LOW-MOLECULAR heparin!! The first kind has side effects that you don't want, which may outweigh the benefit. The blood clotting issue in pregnant women (leading to m/c's) is not new and the common practice at this point is the low-dose Aspirin/low-molecular heparin combo.

Hope this helps!!

xoxo


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Reply by paradise5 » Nov. 14, 2012 4:26pm

Thank you Ariesing and Torontochick, You guys have been such great support here for me and I so appreciate that! Ariesing: I was thinking too about our eggs just pretty much being a grab bag thing and that it may or may not make much of a difference on how healthy I eat or not, although I will keep eating healthy, but I really want to start trying as soon as I can. Knowing me, I will only wait til after one good period, maybe two. It would probably be better to wait it out til after the Holidays though, that way I can be more relaxed by then and hopefully in a little better health. What supplements are good for helping the uterine lining become good and plush again? You are so right about the advanced maternal age thing, my doctor even told me that he had a 47 year old patient right now who is pregnant. This gives me more hope there. Hopefully I still have a few good years left, but I also know that I am not getting any younger so don't want to waste too much time. Although I haven't had any trouble getting pregnant ever, I am just so nervous that it may just take awhile next time, and even more nervous that the same thing is going to happen over again. I really don't think my husband will try anymore if I am to lose another one. I was actually surprised that he was willing to try again with the last one and even more surprised that he is still willing to try again. I'm thrilled about that! Torontochick: Ok, so now I am a little confused about the Heparin. My doctor told me that once I get pregnant again to call the office and they will get me started on the shots. He didn't tell me if it would be a low-molecular heparin though. He just said Heparin and baby aspirin combo would probably be the best thing. I also am going ahead and taking a baby aspirin daily now to be a little ahead I hope. I mean, I am thinking that once I am pregnant and then start on them, it might be too late again. What do you think on that. I figure taking one daily now sure can't hurt. I also wonder if it would be possible with my change of diet and taking a baby aspirin daily now could possibly change those blood results? Or is it once they are elevated, they probably stay elevated no matter what? It's all so confusing. I wished my doctor would explain more about all of that stuff. So, Toronto, are you also taking Lovenox along with the heparin and baby aspirin? Also, will a hematologist know how much I should be on once I am pregnant? I will look one up today and see about getting in if they have one in my area and they will accept medicaid. Also, if my doctor does put me on regular heparin, is that a bad thing? Could that still cause me to miscarry? Sorry so many questions, Just trying to get all of this figured out as much as possible before trying again. Thanks so very much for listening ladies, You have been great and I will take and use any opinions you guys give me.


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Reply by dmartin65 » Nov. 14, 2012 5:44pm

Hey paradise5. I am definitely of the same opinion on the eggs....I was told by my OB that your eggs are as old as you are...so it IS a crap shoot as to whether you get a good one or not, unfortunately. I was lucky in that we had a m/c but this time it took with a good one. Baby girl is doing great. Definitely changing your eating habits and such is not only good for you but will be good for baby too. Don't beat yourself up that your eating habits over the years have caused you to have bad eggs, because that is just not the case. Hopefully now that the doctor has caught some of these blood issues it will help with your next pregnancy and everything will go smoothly.

Hugs to you!!

Toronto: Good luck to you as well on your move. It's a pain but will be so worth it once we are both settled in our new homes.

AFM: Just wanted to update that my glucose test came back NORMAL! Yay!. I was so very happy. I have also started my kick counting which has been fun.

Hope everyone has a super day today!!


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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 15, 2012 8:42am

Paradise, it's a good idea to start taking the Aspirin now. I have taken it throughout my TTC process, both my REs in my IVF cycles also recommended them.

However, once you are pregnant, the Aspirin will not be enough to help with your clotting issues. You will need the heparin. It is also likely, that they may put you ONLY on heparin, not on the hep/Aspirin combo.

A hematologist will most definitely know what to look for in your bloodworks and what to prescribe. That is what they are trained in. If you go to one, you can ask ahead if he treats women with clotting issues in pregnancy. He probably does. My hematologist knows probably a million times more about clotting issues and pregnancy than my RE (who only put me on aspirin).

The Lovenox I mentioned is the "low-molecular heparin". Lovenox is just the brand name. http://www.lovenox.com/consumer/default.aspx
IMHO it is important that you would take the low-molecular instead of the regular heparin. A hematologist would know that. You still have time to get an appointment, I would go and get a consultation.

And, btw, the Aspirin will help to treat but not "remove" the clotting disorder.

Taking supps (CoQ10, etc) to improve egg quality are probably helpful and so is eating healthy. Antioxidants are key to improving egg quality.

Good luck!!


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Reply by hopefulat40 » Nov. 15, 2012 3:27pm

Good Morning! :)

Such a wealth of knowledge from all the wonderful ladies here! Hope it's helpful Paradise...fingers crossed! :)

Toronto, I am so glad the bladder is resolved! Phew..:) and Yippee!

Airiesing, how are you feeling? Do you think you've dropped?

Destiny, You are in are thoughts always... :)

MMama, rest! You will get back your energy! How's sweet DH doing now?

Dmartin, love the results...Little Sabrina is a happy baby! :)

All the other great ladies!!! Hello!!! :)

Update: I am in my 3rd trimester!!! Wooot! I had my glucose test yesterday- ick. Waiting for the results, never had issues with the first two, but.....that was 18 years ago! LOL! Baby was doing good, measurements good and I gained 2lbs for the month! So a total of 12... It's all tummy, boy! Nights are getting a bit uncomfortable. :) But worth every moment...

Smiles and a good morning! Happy Thursday!

Txo







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Reply by Torontochick » Nov. 15, 2012 7:23pm

Hi ladies...

Update from me: My scan today was perfect, yay! My OB was very happy. The little lemon was moving around wiggling arms and legs and wouldn't hold still for measuring... but it's all good right now.
Next milestone is Nov 26, my NT scan.

Hopeful... Congrats on reaching the last trimester, wohoo!!

xo



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