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i agree people can change but not always because you want them to. they have to want it too. thats all im saying. [:

Its nice having someone who can finally relate to my situation. several of my friends are pregnant as well and all have supporting boyfriends. I get jealous at times, but thats normal. my bf does smoke on occasion, but thats him and its when im not around. i have my job to do and if hes gonna be like this then thats on him. i cant worry about him, i worry enough as it is lol. We arent married to these guys and yes we are having babies with them, but this wasnt planned, at least not for me. But im going to be the best mom i can be and im sure you will be too. And who knows maybe they will change like everyone says they will haha [:

He used to smoke then he gave up... he only started again once I found out I was pregnant, which is when he strarted working more, very small amounts but of course it has gotten alot worse. Of course I have spoken to him about it!!
And I am most definatly not "allowing it to happen" He says its his way of staying home and relaxing rather than going out and drinking with his friends its easier if they come over for an hour or two then go. I feel there is only so many times I can say something about it! But its just not worth leaving one another over, spesh with a baby on the way! Tough one. but thankyou

I definitely dont agree with the last comment, not everyone does that. I definitely dont and neither does my husband. Despite what people think about weed, its not healthy or good in any way. It can cause alot of damage to the person smoking including slowed reaction time and an increased chance of schizophrenia. Also people who smoke weed have one of the highest risks of drug induced psychosis. Being an herbalist I see absolutely no reason for this herb, hemp however is very helpful. I look at marijuana as more of a poisonoius herb personally. Also having substance abuse as part of my degree and being a recovering alcoholic damage I know how damage this can be because it is a drug. But what he does now is what he does, it is highly addictive despite what is normally said about it. He may be damaging himself but I definitely wouldnt let him do this around baby. and oh weed is also a form of escape, and he may not be dealing with the reality that you guys are going to be having a baby

I hate to say this, but you probably already knew this about him before you decided to have a baby with him. I personally do not think it's okay for him to spend two hours a night smoking weed (and it definitely shouldn't be okay once your baby comes). That being said, you're the one who is not communicating with him about it. It sounds like you are just allowing it to happen. You are starting a family together, so some lifestyle changes are to be expected. I don't think it's asking to much for him to spend more time with you. What are your expectations of him once the baby comes? Will you be the ONLY one taking care of the baby while he hangs out with friends and smokes pot all evening long? It sounds like you need to have a heart-to-heart with him and really lay out your needs and expectations of him. If nothing changes, that will tell you a lot. I hope it gets better. Good luck!