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Q: Husband lies....

Okay. I need opinions. My husband was a TERRIBLE man in EVERY relationship he ever had before me. We were friends for a year before we dated and dated/lived together a year before we married. He told me all the bad things about himself when we were friends. Now fast forward. I have caught my husband in many lies, deceptive things. He knows my feelings about things so last month to assure me that he is not the man he stopped putting lock on his cell phone and gave me what he said was the password to his two email accounts. Well I have found that he did not give me pw to his main email account only his ebay account & I have discovered an additional email account. I confronted him & he says its his PERSONAL life & not my business. Well forgive me but I have no locks on anything and correct me if I am wrong but is our PERSONAL lives not supposed to be joined? I have nothing to hide so I hide nothing. Considering his past and the constant half truths am I justified in my anger?

This question was asked Jun. 11, 2012 9:43pm
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Answered by a member - Jun. 11, 2012 10:37pm
The beginning of this is exactly how my husband and I got together. My husband, before we ever met, had slept with 168 women all one night stands. Let alone he was always lying and that sort of thing. We have been married for almost 2 years now and I still get weary. He understands that I get upset about other women talking to him. While he lets me check his phone occasionally, I leave his emails alone. You got to let him have his privacy too or else its going to cause alot more problems then what you already have. Believe me when I say we had alot of problems during my first pregnancy because it was during the summer (all the girls in almost nothing bothered the hell out of me). Finally we talked things through and managed to work things out to benefit us both. We rarely fight over things like that anymore and Im glad. Our marriage is better. But let him have some privacy and just talk to him. I hope this helped out a little.

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Answered by knicole27 - Jun. 11, 2012 10:35pm
oh also.. ALWAYS trust your gut instinct. I have found in all my relationships it has been correct. If it feels wrong in the pit of your stomach .. it is.

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Answered by 14npregnant - Jun. 11, 2012 10:32pm
Well there is something in there he dont want you to know and once a cheater always a cheater. Cheater dont change they just find new ways to lie ok

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Answered by knicole27 - Jun. 11, 2012 10:28pm
I don't even wanna go there as it may sound rude but.. you say you knew he was a terrible man in every relationship before you? ... red flags all over that. So yeah I would say your justified. I do however think people can change and I am open to trusting. I am not one to say "once a cheater always a cheater" because i have been in a situation where cheated on once but i had to look at myself and how i was treating him because it was out of his character to do such a thing but.. this sounds like this is in character for lies etc. If a marriage is going to work you need to be able to trust 100%.. not 90% not 95% not even 99.9%... 100%.

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