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Thank you but I got more confused lol because I never had sex November 24 or December 6th I got with my ex Dexter in November and we didnt date for that long we dated for like a week we broke up by thanksgiving and we hardly hung out. And I never thought about having sex with him because it was to soon and I was still in love with JJ the guy I beleive is the father.

I'm a week AHEAD of you at 32 weeks, that's why I mentioned the dates. If I conceived on November 22nd (which was at the beginning of Thanksgiving week), you likely conceived a week LATER than I did since you are only 31 weeks. I just wanted to give you something to COMPARE it to. You must have had sex with someone around the end of November because that is the likely time you would have conceived IF you are 31 weeks. As mentioned, sperm lives for 3-5 days inside of you. So you might have had sex during Thanksgiving week but your egg didn't release until a few days later which became fertilized days after you had sex. You did not get pregnant in October (especially since your last period was November 15th, you wouldn't have had a period in November if you got pregnant in October).

You are just going to have to wait and do a paternity test once the baby is born. Because it's not the sex you had around Christmas OR the October sex....it's November. GL!

Well, I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I know I ovulated on November 22nd since I was using a Clearblue Easy fertility monitor and OPKs (my DH and I BDed on November 21st). I got my BFP on December 6th at 14 dpo. So it's probably whomever you had sex with around the end of November but only a paternity test will be able to tell you for sure.

I am reading your entries and am just so sad, that in these times you are being so careless with your life. Anyways, everyday is a new day to choose better for yourself, and now your unborn. God's mercies are new every morning and his grace is sufficient for us. Please take care of yourself and your baby, forget about who's the father for right now. Honestly, what do you think JJ would think of you if he knew you slept with all these people while your are suppose to be in a relationship with him (my assumption is that you are in a relationship with him) if you are not in a relationship with JJ, this baby (if it is his baby) will not keep him in a relationship with you. Women must understand this, children don't make men want or love you. when they want to go, they'll go whether there's a child or not. Please Please Please, get it together, you are young, (my assumption) and you now have a great responsibility to be the best you can be for this child. Stop sleeping around.

You have a lot of if, maybes involved with this scenario and seem to be confused no matter what people are telling you. So my advice is to have the baby..enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Focus on you and the baby. Let the baby get a little use to the world outside of your tummy then begin having people tested. How ever you go about it. If that's by going by which person you are hoping to be the father..or by logistics of when and where things took place. That is all up to you. Just testing people due to preference of fathering is not practical..because these test are costly I'm assuming. So instead of trying to hurt your brain while your pregnant (pregnancy brain..and the fogginess that comes with it), just relax for now..you've come this far..no need to stress when you are so close. Easier said then done I'm sure..but, you need to for your baby. Everything happens for a reason..and everything will work out in the end. Good Luck. God bless you and that little peanut.

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Thank you so much you have been a big help through all of this. I talked to JJ today he said the last time we had sex was the begging of November I remember because he left sometime in November and I had to ask to make sure. He never wore a condom we had sex alot and thats why I believe he is the father. then i read something online about my last period it said i got it November 15 and the day that i conceived was the 29th. I didn't go hang out with them till the 27th or the 28th i'm worried but i will test them JJ is getting tested first because he is buying the dna test from walgreens.

No.... not Nov 24 OR Dec 6..... anytime between Nov 24 to Dec. 6. (and all the days in between).

It's possible for some women to ovulate immediately after their period too, so honestly, you could have conceived anytime between Nov 15- Dec 6.

I assume you're pregnancy has been "dated" which means your doctor believes because of ultrasound measurements that your fetus is *around* 31 weeks.

So it's very unlikely, your baby was conceived before Nov. 15, and it's extremely unlikely the baby was conceived after Dec. 6.

Again, whomever you had sex with anytime between Nov. 15 until Dec 6 is the father.

So, how are you determining that you are 31 weeks pregnant? Ultrasound? Those aren't as accurate for dating purposes later in pregnancy (when you found out you were pregnant). You'll have to test all 5 guys once the baby is born because you might be earlier or later than you think you are. Good luck!

Okay, so here is the thing.... you have now mentioned 5 people (its okay... im not judging...) but i think for you to be certain, you need to have the following people tested: Malcom, Dexter, JJ and the 2 people you had a threesome with. I'd start with JJ because emotionally you WANT him to be the father. If he is not, move on to the 2 people you had the 3some with and then Malcom, lastly, test Dexter.

Paternity tests are expensive. You can petition the court for paternity testing, and you can have your local "Legal Self Help Center" help you fill out the paperwork for free. You will have to file the paperwork for the paternity test for every potential father separately.

If you live in Fairfax County (let's say), you search google for: Fairfax County Legal Aid or Fairfax County Self Help Center.

Make sure it is the free services center. They will direct you to the forms. If they tell you there will be a filing fee, ask for a FEE WAIVER. Good luck.