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erm its normal, I had a boy, and with my second I so wished for a girl and when I went for the 20 week scan and they told me it was a girl, I was gutted, didn't mean I loved the baby any less, and I know it doesn't mean that for you, and of course I was very happy that everything was going great. the more my pregnancy went on I just forgot about it, and when he was born I completely forgot I had wanted a girl, until the next time I was pregnant :) when I went for my 20 week scan with my third, I joked if this is a boy I am going to kill someone or myself ( a complete joke obviously ) baby was healthy and that time I got my girl, with my 4th I wanted another girl, but that ended in a mc at 11 weeks :( now I am 14 weeks 4 days and I hope I have a girl, but after my mc I will be happy if it comes out a baby monkey :), my mum had 3 girls and miscarried 3 times all boys, people can just carry one sex, took me 3 attempts to have a girl, you didnt mention how many children you have?

I totally understand where your coming from and i dont think anyone should make you feel bad because you have a gender preference. Most people have a preference and just dont admit it. This is my first pregnacy and i really want a girl!!!! But as this is my first child, i really dont mind either way, but if i had two boys in a row i would be really upset and worried about trying for a third baby as i dont want 3 boys. People can tell you to be gratefull all they want but you cant help how you feel! I will say though, im sure when bubby arrived all this stuff will go out the window and you will fall in love with bub.

wow...pregnancy hormones are flying! lol

Actually this is not my first child, but obviously you are too closed minded to think about the psychological impact that previous children, upbringing and nurture have on this subject.
Firstly, I do not love my child any less, in fact I didn't even realise I had a preference. As stated I am trying to understand my reaction as it shocked me. I do not resent my baby, it doesn't even say that in my post.
When you leave your closed off box then maybe you will understand that this is a reaction I have no control over and by being open about it I will understand it and be a better a person.
Perhaps you need to be less harsh and critical.

Since having a baby of a specific gender is so important to you, I'd suggest that if you do ever have another, that you wait to find out the gender until the baby is born, that way you can fall in love with the child then, and not suffer with the resentments during your pregnancy... kwim?