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con't-Maybe clean just one room really well or one task like vacuuming all the rooms or catching up the laundry. I'm fortunate in that my DH is not picky (not that he cleans much, but he doesn't complain either) We actually joked about my "push present", I want to hire housekeepers for a day while I'm in the hospital so I can come home to a clean house but ya know, I think we are actually gonna do it!!! Good luck & take care o' you!!

I personally find this answer slightly rude. Pregnancy is different for every woman. And I give you props for being able to maintain your home and 3 kids but not everyone is you. My pregnancy has personally been hard on me and my body. This is my first and by the sound of this question it is this woman's too. You've some it 3 times and know what to expect. I say as long as you do your best at what you can around the house that's good enough. The important thing is that you don't wear yourself out. I can understand ur dhs frustration but he'd be singing a different tune if he was hauling a baby around 24/7. That's my opinion

I'm sorry but some of these answers make me squirm! Why do we need to give our husbands a run down of the chores we've done each day to prove our worth or that we're taking care of day-to-day living? We aren't teenagers that get a list of things to do by our parents. We're grown women with our own lives and responsibilities. Have we gone back to a 50s way of thinking?!

'My house belongs in a magazine"????? Please, love ya gal & all your hard work but you can hang up your cape, we all know you're super woman. I'mm 32 weeks now and save for a few weeks in the 2nd trimester, somedays it's an effort to get out of bed! Not that I don't think keeping up my house is important, I do. But I also think listening to my body & growing a human being is important too..I do what I can, I try to keep up the dishes, I maintain my DD (3 yr), I work part time, I catch things up when I have the strength but I stop when my body says so & I'm glad I have because I just found out on Tues that I have a low-lying placenta. What would have happened if I had wrecked myself for the sake of a tidy house???!! Would I have started to bleed?? Lost my baby?? Lost my life?? I know that's extreme but it's always possible. The other thing is my daughter, I'd rather spend what time I feel good w/ her than cleaning. I say if you can try to get 1 task done a day your

Every woman and every pregnancy is different. To the one who replied that her house looks like it belongs in a magazine, good for you but you should not pass judgement on someone else because you don't know their situation, their body, etc. I find it interesting that you're proud of yourself enough to post how well you've kept your house, but you did so anonymously...

To the poster, do you work? If so, I definitely think it's ok to cut yourself some slack. Your rest/health is more important than keeping your house dust-free. I will say though that sometimes the hardest part is getting up and moving, but once you're up and going it feels good to be moving and getting things done. I have the same problem you're having but with exercise. I had to tell my DH to get me up off the couch after dinner no matter what and go walking with me. I'm tired and annoyed at first but once we're walking I feel so much better. Do things when you can, ask your DH for help, and rest :)

It's called communication. I personally don't have "my own life". I am married and live with my husband. What I do or don't do impacts him. He's supporting me since I am not working fulltime and I plan to be home with the kids for a good 5 years before I go back to work. I do my part around the home. No I'm not back in the 50's but I am pretty close as we do not have a typical 2 income family. To make up for my lack (or partial lack) of income I do more around the house. If I am sleeping in bed when he leaves and lounging on the couch when he returns he has no clue that I did anything all day. Sure if he goes searching he may find the carpets have less dirt since I vacuumed. I tell him so he knows. He gives me a list as what I feel needs to be done is different that what he feels needs to be done and I show him I care by doing some things he needs done. Rather than sitting around silent and pissed off with each other we do what we find works, we're both more than happy with e

What would I do? Well... I think keeping the house clean is important to be honest. I don't think letting pregnancy get in the way of duties is right.... But that's me. I'm almost 40 weeks now, and I have 3 kids but I keep the house clean, cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and I'm the only person that does dishes in the house 3 x a day! Laundry? Yup, I do it for 5 people daily. House looks like it belongs in a magazine. Do you plan on cleaning and taking care of the house and cooking AFTER the baby arrives? Because it's not going to get easier...

Pregnancy is what you make it. If you want to be lazy, that is FINE, people love being pregnant and lazy, I know it, it's more common then not, BUT you have to live up to it, and not make excuses for it. Just be like "Honey, I'm super pregnant, and I want to relax, I'm not into keeping active or cleaning while preggo, so get off my back... it's just not my thing." Tons of women don't do crap once they get knocked up, don't feel b

I only work 2 or so days a week. I am 15 weeks pregnant and exhausted at best on most days. My husband is an engineer and a neat freak. My husband pitches in a ton, always has but much more now. What we've found works is he makes a list of things that are "bothering" him around the house. When I do have energy I try to cross of a few of those things and let him know. We both know I will not do everything on the list, and some days I'll do nothing on it but it gives him a visual of my accomplishments. Let's face it most men, even neat freaks can be oblivious to what has been done around the house! Sometime just saying I did this and this today is enough to assure the husband that something was done.

Maybe rest and lounge all day then shortly before your husband comes home start some work around the house. While the house won't get much cleaner this way it may be all he needs to see after a long day of work.

I can sort of see it from both points of view (yours and DHs) -even the best, most supportive of hubbies don't always understand. Sometimes they wont understand until they experience it first hand for themselves. Of course he's not going to be pregnant - have you considered hiring a pregnancy belly and asking him to wear it for a couple of days? He'll see it's not so comfortable to sleep, and it's damn tiring some days!

On the other hand, sometimes my hubby is knackered after working and occasionally on a day off he needs to do nothing. I have to understand that and not be frustrated with him too, give him some space.

Otherwise, communication is the key. I work shiftwork so I can have 4 days off in a row sometimes. But I find I don't get a great deal done even then - I can't keep my eyes open by lunchtime most days... when I express my frustration about not being able to do much, he understands I'm not being lazy, the baby is just using up all the nutrients and energy.

GL!

thanks ladies who replied to my post. its not that DONT keep the house clean, even in the post I wrote I do what I can. but just that day I was really tired and dh got all sweaty about it. anyways thanks