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Asked by pheobe412

Q: I want to hide what I am facing, but how?

Hi there guys, how are you. I hope you all are doing okay and I wish you find my post at your best. I am finished now. My life is over. When I look at myself now a days it seems like life never did justice with me. Why me. Why all the time just me. I am really sorry that I got little emotional. Only option that is left for me is surrogacy. I want to keep it a secret. I don't want anyone to know about this. I am really sorry for this but this is the way it is. Please help me how could It's possible. I am related to show business so I have to keep it secret. It's already very complicated I don't want to make it more. Please help.

This question was asked Feb. 4, 2018 11:17am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 7, 2018 2:33pm
Hey Pheobe! May your heart and soul find comfort. How are you doing now? I am really sad to hear about your loss. But try to stay positive, you can make it through. Gather your hope and courage for the future. Life is a great blessing than any of others. If you are alive then you can make it through anything. Just stay positive. There is the option of surrogacy you can opt. Don't stress out and take your decision with the cold mind. You are not alone here, I am with you. I also experienced many miscarriages and conceived my baby through IVF. I know a clinic in Europe they'll provide you with all your needs. They also have surrogate mothers too. I am always here for you. Keep me updated about your condition dear. Take care of yourself.

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Answered by alicee - Jul. 7, 2018 8:11am
Hey Pheobe! May your heart and soul find comfort. How are you doing now? I am really sad to hear about your loss. But try to stay positive, you can make it through. Life is a great blessing than any of others. If you are alive then you can make it through anything. Just stay positive. There is the option of surrogacy you can opt. Don't stress out an think with the cold mind. You are not alone here, I am with you. I also experienced many miscarriages and conceived my baby through IVF. I know a clinic in Europe they'll provide you with all your needs. They also have surrogate mothers too. I am always here for you. Keep me updated about your condition dear. Take care of yourself.

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Answered by ericalee - Feb. 7, 2018 3:00pm
Needing to pursue surrogacy is nothing to be ashamed of. I am actually hoping that recent celebrity births, like Kim K's, will help shed some light this option. She was pretty upfront about needing a surrogate the entire time. I really don't think you need to hide this. I hid my multiple miscarriages for a LONG time because I thought people would pity me or something... but I should have opened up early, because I would have had so many people to help lift me up and support me through it. *hugs* You will get to be a mama, please know that.

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Answered by tressalee - Jun. 22, 2018 2:14pm
Hello. hope you are good? I am glad to know that you are planning surrogacy. Go for it. Your doctor took care of your privacy and everything. Don't worry. your business will be not affected. One day you will have your own child. good luck and take care.

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Answered by jenifercox - Feb. 9, 2018 6:57am
Well you know what. We can't do anything but wait. Don't worry my friend. Something good is about t come towards you and you'll get it soon. don't worry about anything. Just try to be happy always. Everything will be fine soon. Just try to take care allot of yourself. May you get well soon. I think you are happy now. please try to be happy. Best of luck.

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Answered by saramccartney123 - Mar. 12, 2018 6:41pm
Hey. I'm good. Thank you for asking. To answer your question, I think it is possible. You need to choose the right clinic for it. A good clinic takes care of your discretion. You cannot hide it from your husband though. It is possible to hide it from your family. I know it's your decision. But you really shouldn't be ashamed of this if that is the reason for you to hide it. Infertility is a very common problem. It could happen to anyone. It is not your fault. So there is nothing to be ashamed of. You can go to the clinic I went to for my surrogacy. They did all the work very efficiently. I wish you good luck with it. Please don't lose hope just yet. You will become a parent soon.

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Answered by teena82 - Mar. 13, 2018 6:57pm
Hey Pheobe, you are looking so much stressed. just relaxed. This is not the end of life. I know giving birth to a child is indeed what every woman craves for. This feeling is unmatched with any other pleasures of life. But if it is not happening with you. It's not your fault. Why are you blaming yourself? Why are you hiding from other people? When I came to know that I am having double infertility, I was also very depressed. But I didn't hide it from anyone. I joined a group of people having the same condition as me. There somebody told me about surrogacy. Now next month I am going to Ukraine for my surrogacy. I am not hiding it from anybody. If I can't conceive naturally then God has opened a new door for me. So, you also don't hide it from anyone. There is nothing wrong with it.

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Answered by monika123 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:58pm
Hey there! I hope you're doing good. Surrogacy is a good option to opt for. It allows you to be genetically link with the baby. A lot of people these forums say that Ukraine is a great option for this treatment. Try researching on your own as well. After which decide anything. Don't be stressed!

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 21, 2018 12:04pm
Theres nothing to hide in it.Why you are hiding it?
Its the part of life.I am from Japan.I am also infertile.
We moved to Europe in search of a very good clinic.We didn't found a good clinic in Europe.We moved to Ukraine than.In Ukraine we found a clinic.It has many good reputation.As i am sharing my direct experience with you all.We found a good surrogate.Now she is pregnant with our two daughters.Soon we will have two daughters.
I guess you should also go for surrogacy.

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Answered by crystallove - Feb. 9, 2018 5:47pm
Aww, you poor girl. Why are you so stressed? Take your time out and tell us the reason for your infertility maybe it can be cured.Most women can conceive naturally as long as they are on the right path.Coming from a woman who has been dealing with 'forced infertility' for quite some time now I can imagine your pain and frustration well. Do not give up hope. People some time succeed after 5 to 6 years of TTC and it all works out in the end. I'm sorry if you find this offensive as I do not know the exact condition that you are in.It has never been my intention to harm anyone's feeling in any way and I hope the things I have said you will take them positively.Also, surrogacy is such a huge blessing for infertile couples I mean I would understand if you are shy because of it. I mean not all families are alike but if you are considered about the abstract morality of the process and not peoples opinion then it is the best thing to go for. Even then if you are really concerned about your priv

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