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it had a HUGE lasting affect on me physically and mentally even to this day. Being in high stress situations makes for not so healthy babies. I know this from experience. You need to find someone you can talk to about this that can help you through making your decisions on how you can either, A. talk to him.. or B. Leave. I know that option B sometimes feels soooo hard and it can be but with the right support you can get through it. Thinking and praying for you.

That is absolutely UNACCEPTABLE behavior. You need to leave. It may be difficult, but clearly the relationship has turned into an unhealthy one. No matter what the reasoning is, he should never put his hands on you. The fact that you are pregnant just reinforces that. This is not something to take chances with. No second chance. If you say you will try and if he does it again you will leave, you are only lying to yourself. The longer you stay the harder it will be. I work for my Police Department and I know first hand that this is not a chance you need to take.

i say this is just ridiculous! YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BABY! YOUR BABY ISNT EVEN BORN AND YOUR PUTTING HIM/HER IN HARMS WAY! NO EXCUSE! IF YOU DONT LEAVE , ITS GOING TO KEEP GETTING WORSE AND THERES NO EXCUSE FOR STAYING!! JUST IMAGINE HOW ROUGH ITLL BE AND HOW HELL REACT WHEN THERES AN INFANT SCREAMING AND CRYING....WHAT HAPPENS THEN!! THIS JUST MAKES ME UTTERLY SICK HE NEEDS HELP! HAVE HIS ASS ARRESTED AND GET AN ORDER OF PROTECTION! AND CALL SOME HOTLINES AND GOTO YOUR LOCAL WELFARE OFFICE FOR ASSISTANCE MOVING AND TELL THEM WHAT HAPPEND!!! YOU NEED TO KEEP A RECORD OF IT,JUST INCASE! GOOOD LUCK AND GET OUT

Oh im sorry, i forgot we live in a world where female violence is acceptable (slapping men, throwing things at them) but the slightest bit of male violence is condemned with the utmost stringency. ;) It's okay. I know how this works. Again, I think they both need anger management help, but that is only advice coming from a certified domestic violence counselor (me), so no need to heed my advice ;) It wont hurt my feelings.