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Q: Baby's last name?

My fiancé and I have agreed that since we aren't married that when the baby is born it will get my last name then once we are married both me and the baby will change our last names to my fiancé's (although my fiancé isn't thrilled about it not getting his last name he understands where I'm coming from and supports me). Our problem seems to be everyone else though. People-especially people in his family- feel VERY strongly that that isn't right. They try saying its becuase I'm 'ashamed' he's the father, or that I'll leave him and just want child support and tell him not to sign the birth certificate. How rude and inappropriate of them! It's not their business what last name our baby gets! I was just wonder what your views are on the topic, and how many other women are/were with the dad but still gave baby their last name?

This question was asked Nov. 21, 2012 12:26pm
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Answered by -Lee-B - Nov. 21, 2012 12:42pm
Did you tell them it doesn't matter whose last name baby has in regards to child support? What a stupid thing to say! If their argument held any merit wouldn't you be more likely to get child support if you gave baby HIS last name and not yours??

I do wonder when you plan to get married. I think it would be more confusing for a young child to go from one last name to another. If you plan to do it very soon (before child understands last names) or much later when child can understand why the name change then maybe not an issue. But in the early years of school it seems like it would be weird for a child (though I guess children do this frequently with divorces and remarriages).

As well, did you consider all the extra paper work you'd be making for yourself by giving baby one name now and changing it? I've been married over 2 years now and am still not up to date on all the name change paperwork!!!

Just things to consider!



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