Answered by erinjsmith - Sep. 21, 2011 8:15pm
I lost a baby at 15 weeks and didn't get dnc until 16 weeks. As I look back, I was totally numb. I gave it until my first normal cycle to cry, be angry, be selfish, talk about it (a lot) be quiet, yell...everything. For me that was 90 days. Then, for me and all of those around me I had to move on. I understand how you're feeling. It's s disappointing. Let yourself grieve, then get right back in the game. Your baby is waiting for you. It will happen when the time is right. I'm 14w3d. Keep your chin up! You can get pregnant and you will!
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Answered by Dec11baby - Sep. 22, 2011 2:08pm
I went thru the same thing last November...went in for my appt...should have been 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. Had to wait about a week to have the d&c surgery done. It was very upsetting and my husband I cried a lot over that week or so. It was also a shock to us b/c I had no signs /symptoms of m/c and we have two other children with no problems & no losses before. Began trying again in mid-Jan. after one cycle and found out I was pregnant again in mid-April. Had to take progesterone for the first 13 weeks and even though I am now almost 28 weeks, I still worry from time to time...it is normal after a m/c. I am so sorry for your loss. You & your spouse will move on but probably never forget...and that is okay. Just take your time and do what is best for you. Keep trying and I am confident that you will have a healthy baby one day soon. Sending prayers & love your way...
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Answered by Samm0704 - Sep. 26, 2011 11:20pm
Very sorry for your loss.. Prayers are with you <3
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Answered by Shylarochelle1 - Sep. 26, 2011 8:51pm
Im so sorry hun...I had tried for 3 years and finally got pregnant and everything was going well but i had a miscarriage at 10 weeks on Christmas Eve last year...dont give up hope. I was heartbroken, especially because of the holiday. for a while i couldnt stop crying and was down in the dumps. Thank god i have a wonderful fiance. We talked though and got right back on the horse and 4 months after in April i got pregnant again! I am now 25 weeks 2 days. unfortunatly i am on bed rest but so far everything is good. Make sure before you try again you are ok and ready for it. And make sure your doctor is there every step of the way. This time i have a wonderful doctor and i dont know what id do without her. Good luck hun and i am sorry for your loss.
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Answered by octivia - Sep. 21, 2011 1:16pm
I just so sorry for you and your partner
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Answered by thenotoriousmamab - Oct. 25, 2011 3:41pm
The exact same thing happened to me 12 years ago. It was nearly a month from when I found out until I actually miscarried... I was not thinking clearly, and refused the D&C.
It is awful, and feels senseless, I know. But despite planning on waiting a year, we were pregnant 3 months later, with no complications, and I have an 11 year old son now, that I cherish every day because I went through that awful loss. It has made me a better mother.
Take your time to grieve, but know that things will get better.
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Answered by rkeech2006 - Sep. 22, 2011 3:06pm
Just want to say thanks for the loving words. Im currently sick and crampy i still cant understand any of this. I still have till tuesday for my dnc so this waiting is the worst.... Just knowing theres a dead baby still inside of me makes me so flippn sick ewww ugh
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Answered by allysaunders - Sep. 21, 2011 12:52pm
I'm very sorry to hear what has happened to you, having experienced a dnc myself it is hard, in fact harder than you ever imagine being able to cope with, especially after trying for so long. You will have better days, there will be some that are worse, and there will be days when you don't even want to get out of bed, but please remember that its important that you do, that you carry on but also grieve in your own time.
If you want to cry then do, scream into a pillow and let it all out, but most of all talk with your partner who will also be needing the same comfort as you. You won't forget but the pain will become easier to bear and hopefully you will be blessed again soon. All my love and thoughts x
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Answered by newnamc - Sep. 21, 2011 1:41pm
Hi ... i was 7 weeks pregnant on the 18Th august 2011 and had heavy bleeding only to be told at the hospital that they could not see a baby ...as we speak now i am going through a miscarriage i totally understand what you are going through and find my self crying for you and me ... its a very painful time but we need to stay strong ,crying has helped me but i feel anger now .... i send you love and big hugs xxxx
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Answered by Foambee - Sep. 21, 2011 10:03pm
My deepest Condolences :( Prayers are with you
HUGS AND LOVE <3 Im so so sorry :(
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