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I'm in a similar situation. My fiancee & I are getting married on 11/11, so in Aug. we decided to start trying since I'm considered high risk and it would most likely take a while. I got preggo on my 1st month, lol. My pastor and his wife were the only ppl I really worried about telling - I love them dearly and consider them family, but I worried about what they would say and if I would be able to continue attending our church (and if he would still marry us!). After breaking the news, his wife did pull me aside to fuss at me - for not telling her sooner!! She wanted to know all the details and gave me some great advice. They are both very supportive and have even been praying for a good pregnancy. I wish I'd have told them right away, lol. Best of luck to you!!

God gave us the gift to bear children, if he did not want us to he would have given the gift to men, but that is not how we were made. I don't know where you are from but I live in Australia and it's illegal to disciminate against a pregnant woman. I can understand religion must play a vital role in your life but everyone else is right, God loves us all and if your Pastor does not approve he is not doing his job correctly in the eyes of the law and religion.

The fact that you love your child and wish to make a good life for it is the most important thing. As you're other option is dreadful (and for me personally it's not an option for majority of women)
I had to fess up to my boss at 6 weeks pregnant because I lift heavy items on a daily bases, I know how hard that was and it would be harder for you. But God governs our lives so that we can live to our fallest and He has given you a very special gift that you must cheeirsh and look after.

May I just say that the three ladies that responded melt my heart!! I was going to say the same sort of thing. We, as Christians, sadly have an uphill battle to fight against certain stereotypes. Those stereotypes include judging! I'm so happy to read other responses that are similar to what mine would have been. I hope your pastor embraces you and helps you to feel Christ's love through him! We are all sinners. If this church deems your "actions" to be a sin, so be it...by doctrine of the Church, we are ALL SINNERS. End of discussion. I look forward to hearing nothing but happy news in response to your sharing the news of your blessing with your boss! :D Diana

The only thing your pastor has to scoff at or challenge from here on out is your integrity. Yes, you went outside the Biblical standard considering sex before marriage. That was, Biblicallly speaking, a bad choice. However, if your pastor loves the church in the way that he is supposed to, he will appreciate your being upfront and honest early on in the journey. It may be that the church will not allow you to continue working, or, they may surprise you. But you've already indicated that you would be willing to move on to another job if you don't feel supported. Pray about it a LOT before you go in, but give the church an opportunity to do the job it was created for-to love you! And if they don't...find another church! There are hundreds of thousands of them out there! Keep us posted on how it goes!

Christian values are about faith, love, tolerance and acceptance, and i don't believe your pastor would set a very good example to the congregation if life were to be made difficult for you. I really hope you are able to sort things without any stress, best wishes, ally x

This can be very tricky, depending on the type of church you go to and how the people act, which is quite sad to say. Christ teaches us to love no matter what, but some people allow their way of thinking overrule the right thing to do. Before you decide anything, I suggest that you pray and ask God to guide your words and ask that His will be done, because that's how it will turn out anyway.

Good luck ... I hope you are able to keep your job.