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I do not believe you can press charges for an STD that is not life threatening. You need to speak to your local magistrate to find out for sure. Yes a man can preform whilst "blacked out"

Is it even physically possible for a man to 'perform' adequately whilst "blacked-out" ?? How would the transmission of an STI even be possible? Anyway, all sounds too full of crap to me and you are so angry that its easier to blame your so called friend. Truth is, your partner should neve be out leaving you to get drunk anyway. Drop the idea of charges...(only in the US would such a ridiculous law system exist!!!) get yourself treated and take a whole lot of time considering whether this person is really ready for fatherhood!!!

Oh and..he said he got up to go washroom and just barely remembers her coming into the bathroom then blacked out...he said he wasn't even sure it happened so that's why he never told me but I dunno half me doesn't believe him. Then he said "obviously it did happen if you got an std from it". I know he blacked out everytime he drank though, literally everytime. He was an awful drunk but I don't know :(

Yeah he was really drunk and blacked out and she already admitted it to me that it happened. She didn't deny anything. I made her tell me when I kicked her ass :/ I knew it was her from the start, she does it all the time in her own house where her boyfriend also lives! I told my boyfriend I was going to charge her..I lied to him and said I could easily and was already getting into it and I told him he has to sign the paper aswell saying that he had no intention of doing that and that she went after him while he was too drunk. He never argued it or anything and told me he would sign it so that's kind of why I believe him. Uggghh I don't know its the worst feeling ever

I would have a hard time believing his story. Was he really drunk and taken advantage of, or just drunk and stupid and trying to get you off his back by saying he blacked out? He probably cheated and felt bad that you found out the hard way, so he came up with this helpless story. Good luck, but chances of proving she KNEW she had something and gave it to him on purpose is going to be difficult. Also, what if you press these charges on your "friend" and find out it wasn't her? There goes that friendship, and your relationship with your guy. Unless he actually wants to charge her for rape (good luck proving that too) then it sounds like he is just going along with whatever you want. Obviously, I don't know all the details of the situation, and I really don't want to sound rude. I just think its a hard story to believe. Good luck, and definitely get that treated asap so it doesn't cause your baby any harm.

By sue her privately I mean instead of trying to press criminal charges against her - you can hire a lawyer and sue her in civil court for battery...

Unfortunately you'd have to prove that she knew she had it when she slept with him and purposefully withheld the information from him. Luckily Chlamydia is treatable, so I'm happy for you about that. I also think that you're boyfriend has some serious damage control he needs to do because that's not fair to you. My mom went through the same thing so many times with my dad when they were married. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Sue her privately?? How does that work?

Your best bet is to talk to an attorney...but in this case, I'd say no. In most places it would only be considered an assault or a battery if she had sex with him to intentionally give him Chlamydia. That would be pretty tough to show. You could have her charged with sexual assault or rape. But it might be a tough road to show it wasn't consensual sex. The only caveat would be if she was sober and he wasn't...cases involving adult male victims of sexual assault or rape are very difficult to prove (probably unfairly). You could sue her privately and might have some success...but it really depends on your state.