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We kept spilling our guts during our first pregnancy...and then we lost the baby at 6 weeks. I'll be six weeks tomorrow, and the only people who know are my family, my boss, and my husband. And my doctor. We are waiting for the first ultrasound to tell the news.

I still have people/customers coming up to me asking me if I have a belly yet. I then have to tell them that, no, I don't...I don't have a baby anymore.

Heartbreaking.

With my first, I didn't tell my mom until a week after I took the pregnancy test (I was 17). Then after the doctor confirmed at 9 weeks we told the important people. This pregnancy we told our families and only our closest friends at about 5 weeks. Then at 8 weeks we couldn't keep it a secret any longer and told everyone on facebook.

If you miscarry, you don't want random people coming up to you asking, "Hows the baby?" - it hurts too much. Tell people who you are anyways going to confide in for support if the pregnancy doesn't continue.

I now girls who have miscarried on there 12 week scan... wait till you get the clear. :-) and best of luck!!

In my last pregnancy, we decided to wait until the second trimester to tell everyone, except a few close friends. Then major abnormalities were spotted at the 12-week scan and we chose to TFMR, and I was glad I didn't have to explain everything to my colleagues and my extended family. So for this pregnancy we're doing the same thing - announced it to a few close friends, but we're waiting until we're sure everthing is fine to tell the whole world. But that's just me - I have a friend who choses to announce her pregnancies quite early because if something goes wrong, she wants to be able to get support from her friends and family. I think it all depends on your personality.

I told close friends and family with my 1st pregnancy & it ended in a miscarriage at 11 weeks. Totally devastating! This time around we waited until our big 12 week ultrasound. You think it's fine to tell because they are close friends but people totally look at you differently after a miscarriage and that made me feel worse! Good luck!

hi there,
I'm 7w3d right now, and everyone knows :) I'm one of those very open sort of people...and I just couldn't handle the thought of people not knowing my child had existed, for however long. For me, at 4 weeks we found out, and by 5 the whole world knew. I now have hundreds of people who will be there for us if anything happens, and that gives me a lot more comfort than thinking that no one would know our son or daughter was alive in my belly. I don't want to hide a life is basically what it all came down to. But it's a personal choice. There's no reason you NEED to wait. But if there's more reasons for wanting to wait than not, you should wait until it feels right :)

I told every one when I was five months. I wanted to wait until I pass the danger zone..

I too told just about everyone around the five week mark, in both pregnancies i was just too excited.
Fortunately for me i now have two healthy boys.
On the other side of the argument a friend of mine recently announced a pregnancy but lost it at six weeks. It was heartbreaking watching her explain when somebody congratulated her.
I would say that you should tell a couple of close friends/family anyway for support and that way u can get excited with them and it make waiting easier.

with my first pregnancy we decided we going to wait untill 12 weeks before telling anyone, but then that turned into a chemical pregnancy 3 days after i found out i pregnant, i so so heart broken as we'd been trying 21 months by that point. with my second pregnancy we told people as soon as we found out, went went to his family the day we found out and told them, the day after i told my manager and the day after that i told my parents, i'm now 32 weeks. At the end of the day it's up to you whether you want to say anything before the 12 week mark, i know a few people who wanted to wait untill 12 weeks and ended up miscarrying. i only one person who said before the 12 weeks and miscarried everyone else lead a healthy pregnancy

I told my DH, mum, my manager at work (only because I was so sick) and a good couple of friends before 12 weeks and everything thankfully worked out great for me as I'm now a week away from my due date. However, I know this isnt the way it always goes as I suffered a chemical miscarriage before I fell pregnant this time and I had told around 4/5 people. It was agonising having to tell them I was no longer carrying that baby.
Im obviously not saying thats what will happen to you but my advice would be to tell people you trust and are close to (parents, partner) and share your joy with them. GL! xx