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I am 27wks pregnant with mine & my husband's 1st child together (he has a son and I have a daughter) for years now he has said he only makes boys (yes he only has one son but it's a macho pride thing i guess) When I found out i was pregnant my husband instantly referred to my belly by the name we picked out for a boy. He even started telling people it was a boy before we even knew. When we went in for my US he gave a play by play "oh look at him, he is doing flips, oh look at his heart" then the tech said it was a girl he sat down & was silent. I felt terrible like i did something to let him down. For about a week he didn't mention the baby nor touch my belly, he finally admitted that he is afraid he isn't going to know how to be a dad to a girl because he doesn't know girl things. It all subsided and he talks about her all the time telling her to come out soon. Its normal and as hard as it may be try not to take it personal, he will get over it and love your baby!

If your 1st or his first... Most men want boys. I'm having my 3rd but his first. Since day we found out he says boy only. I have both already but want a girl again. It's a battle right now but i make it fun. He always says he or him when talking about the baby and in turn I say her or she. He says he will have a heart attack if the baby is a girl and I say we'll we will be at dr office when we find out and they will take care of you. At first it bothered me thinking he would be disappointed but since I have had a baby I know once that baby is born it won't matter one bit to either of us so I just turn it into a joke.

My husband was the same way when we had our first. I dreaded the 20 week ultrasound because I didn't want him to be disappointed and he was already calling the baby a "he". I think its normal for men to want boys first. But honestly it all changed a minute before we got to see the baby on ultrasound. He sat and stared and said " I am seeing pig tails now, its a girl" Indeed we found out we were having a girl! And after the ultrasound he was soooooooo excited for a little girl and all thoughts of boy left and he has never regretted having a little girl first. It doesn't matter what you have, you both will love the baby and be so proud to show him or her off to the world :)

i agree with the other posters, but if it does turn out to be a girl, and he tries to act upset, politely remind him that it is infact his sperm that determines the babys sex! lol right now my whole family is pushing for a girl, and i worry they might be disapointed if its not, but im happy with either gender amd im sure your dh will be in the end. best of luck hun!

Thanks guys! Maybe I am a little hormonal ;)

I agree with the previous poster: your husband clearly has a preference for a boy, which is fine, but I'm sure he will love your baby just as much, no matter the gender. Plus, he himself says he's kidding.
However, if his comments hurt your feelings, maybe you could ask him to tone it down a little.

I remember clearly when I had my 3 rd boy with my now ex my mother in law came down,threw a parcel at me,
Stating " I wanted a girl'
Ironic as it was our second child was a girl and the month following the birth of my 3 rd boy (4 child) my motherinlaw bought HER a truck!!!!!
Good ,luck

I was a mum of 3 boys and one girl and for my 5 th I wanted another girl...
When my 4 th boy was born I said to the midwife..
"I don't want him I want a girl" for literally mins and now 12 years on I wouldn't swap him for the world... Swap him for quieter and cleaner but not for the world..
So it's normal and he will be so engrossed with you being in labour whatever u have and do remember its the male that dictate the gender he will be delighted with either.. Good luck x

Totally normal for you to feel a little sensitive about your husbands comment. It's a normal male thing. With our first pregnancy we both 'felt' like we were having a boy as we didn't fid out the sex. We had a little girl and we both were over the moon. Now we are expecting again ad my hubby say's only boy names and says it's a boy all the time. This time we are finding out the sex. We both don't mind if it is another girl.

theres nothing wrong with saying you want either a boy or a girl in my opinion and i think if alot of people if they were honest would say they d want a boy or a girl..personally for me it never mattered and it sounds like it doesnt bother you .let him off because if its a boy he will love him and if its a girl he will love her..my husband and my daughter have a bond that would break your heart..he adores her and she adores him..we have ayounger son son too whom he adores too..so i think when baby is born no matter what the sex the love he will have for the baby will be unconditional..i dont think men understand how much love he will have for baby when its born..you have nothing to worry about...