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In the meantime you shouldn't be putting your self and your baby at risk by staying in a stressful situation just because there is a legal waiting period for a divorce. Be sure to leave or have him leave as soon as possible regardless of the divorce being final. Because the longer you wait to do it the more tolerant of the situation you will become and then sadly just another statistic. You have to be strong enough to know that you can do this on your own and you will be better for it. You don't owe him anything at all. Better to be alone, than to be lonely and used.

Oh honey, i'm so sorry you are going through this! Especially after the struggle you've gone through to get this far I can't believe he would be doing this to you, I'm baffled. I think you are super strong and know of many women who would stick it out for all the wrong reasons so congrats for being such a strong willed woman as I can't imagine how hard this must be on you.

Nothing in your post says anything to me as a reason to stay. I don't even know why'd you consider to.

Thank you ladies. As hard as this is ti go through. I am going to get a divorce and cut my loses. I did find out for California I can file for a divorce but it will have to be in my 5 ir 6 month because there is a mandatory 6 month waiting rule for a pregnant situation. The divorce can not be final until after I give birth for custody reasons.

This is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. This is our first child for both of us and we went through a lot to get pregnant. We tired diffrent methods for a year then it finally happens and this is how I'm repaid.

i'm diagnosed with PTSD. The best advice I could give you is leave now & don't wait for ur child to be born & witness him treat you this way. I made that mistake & my precious lil girl is paying the ultimate price. They never change & don't ever blame urself! You did not push him away, he consciously made the choice to do what he did . There is nothing wrong with you, he has something going on within himself that has nothing to do with you & instead of reaching out to you for help like he should have he made horrible choices by trying to deal with it in his own way. If u ever need to talk i'm here for u cuz Lord knows it helps to know ur not alone. Sorry for rambling on its just a touchy subject for me. I wish the best possible outcome for you:)

he's getting custody of one of those children now cuz the mother doesn't want her anymore & I'm devestated about the whole situation. we now live in different states & he doesn't financially help me with our daughter & hasn't bought the first thing for our unborn son but he's now taking on a child he never planned to have ours were planned. Maybe I'm being selfish cuz the lil girl does need her father in her life I'm just so hurt that our children have lost their father & they have to suffer for his mistakes. My daughter cries for her daddy everyday, they had a very close relationship & it rips my heart out. I work 7 days a wk trying to take care of my kids alone ( i also have 2 from a previous marriage) & I never imagined I would be alone & pregnant. I'm so scared to give birth without him being there I'm participating in therapy to try to heal but its not happening as fast as i need it to. on top of the infidelity he was abusive so i have a diagnoses of PT

I am in a very similar situation. I have been with a man for the last 8 yrs we have a 4 yr old daughter together & I am now 6 months pregnant with our son. He has cheated on me the whole time & I first found out when I was 8 months pregnant with our daughter. I should've left then but I stayed cuz I wanted so badly to raise our child together & he swore he would never do it again. I soon found out those were empty promises. He has had at least 2 other children outside our relationship behind my back that I know of. I recently just left for the 3rd time over the course of almost 4 yrs & I feel like this time is different. I always went back hoping for him to wake up & see what he was losing but now I realize he doesn't care. He still calls & talks to our daughter & asks how me & our unborn child are doing, he tells me he loves me & misses me but I think its just his way of trying to maintain some sort of control over me. He's now getting custody of on

sorry to hear about you situation.emma78 is right you better off been a happy single mother than in an unhappy wife. nobody knows what to do until there in your situation..good luck .

I've been trying to be understanding. Because I know I pushed him away. I know I was wrong. But your right I knowitsI deserve better.

I'm sorry you have to go thru this. I would leave him to there is no way I would stay. My husband and I are fighting and it's rough I'm due in 3 Weeks. We are trying to make it work but I don't know if we can. You are better off being a single mom then unhappy married couple.