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Q: People keep asking for the baby's name...

We found out last month that we are expecting a boy. Now, everyone is asking what name we have picked out. And I am honest with them, telling them we don't have one right now. I don't know that we will have one when we go to the delivery room. We may just have a list, but apparently this is just irritating everyone. My mom mentions a name every time I talk to her and doesn't understand our process. My daughter is named after Molly Brown on the Titanic. It's a big deal. We don't want to just pick a name and not have a reason behind it. So it's taking a little longer. We know the middle name is Michael, after his dad, but the first name is the one we are sticking on. Anyone else getting the pressure to find a name once you know what you are having? Anyone else find it extremely annoying?

This question was asked Sep. 4, 2013 5:20pm
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Answered by Cobalt - Dec. 27, 2013 3:03am

If they keep harassing you, just make up some really awful name and tell them that. Might not help long term, but they may shut up for a few minutes. Of course, you run the risk of them embroidering it everything.

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Answered by blah2989 - Sep. 29, 2013 6:11am

Well you cant exactly tell your family its none of their business, but you CAN reassure them that the baby will have a name before you leave the hospital. Just tell them that you have narrowed it down and made a list and you will know when you see him. Both my boys ( 2&3) didnt have names until around mid second to end of the third trimester! This baby, assuming its a boy has a name. If the keep asking be very blunt and assertive. Tell them to please stop asking, you have made youre decision about how you are going about naming your baby.

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Answered by true_taurus - Sep. 22, 2013 7:56pm

People have an opinion on everything and nothing brings that out more than pregnancy! lol. Also people always want to know "what's next?" (Example: You get married...when are you having a baby? Oh you're pregnant....boy or girl?, It's a girl....what's her name? etc etc)
So yes it's definitely a pain in the butt. And even if you had the perfect name picked, someone would complain about why it's not a good one, or they don't like the spelling, blah, blah,blah.
The most important person here is the baby, who will be just fine no matter when you decide on a name.

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Answered by mariedl - Sep. 6, 2013 7:35pm

My husband and I didn't have a name until about a week ago (we're still only 90% sure on the middle name!) and I'm 36 weeks tomorrow. At first, we answered honestly that we didn't have a name, so no one made a big deal about it. However, once we shared that we had a name but we were waiting to announce until he was born we received all kinds of negativity from family, friends and coworkers. We just want something else to be a surprise when he's born! Not everyone is going to like the name you choose, but good thing it's your child and not theirs! :-) Good luck!

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Answered by kshives1027 - Sep. 5, 2013 1:10am

Thanks everyone! I appreciate all of the feedback! You ladies rock! :)

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Answered by hopefullll - Sep. 4, 2013 6:15pm

We have not told anyone yet but have finally decided on one. It's unusual, not silly like an object or a season or a Greek Goddess but unusual to say the least so we've decided to tell people that we haven't decided yet. I don't want anyone's response spoiling it for us and I don't want suggestions either. Just tell them to back off in a nice way. Or better yet, do what we did with our first, pick a name and tell people that's what it will be and that you're 90% sure about it (that way nobody will make anything with his name on it) and then tell people you changed your minds at the last minute.

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Answered by KenpoMommy - Sep. 4, 2013 5:43pm

My first son didn't have a name until he was 3 days old. His father and I couldn't agree on one til then. But my second had his name as soon as we knew it was a boy. We told everyone that asked what it was and then I had to deal with a couple of peoples negative responses. You can't win either way. But one thing I've always felt strongly about, was the need to actually see my baby before settling on a name permanently. Just tell them, "Don't worry, he'll have one by the time he graduates high school for the diploma". Sometimes you just have to put your foot down with pushy people and remind them who's baby this is. They'll get over it. This time we are just telling people the truth, yes we have a name, and no, we are not telling this time. They already know its a boy, something has to be a surprise, right?

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Answered by kelliers - Sep. 4, 2013 5:42pm

We are not naming ours until he's born, either. We have a list but we want to see what he looks like. When people get annoyed I look at them like they're crazy and ask "How can we name him if we don't know what he looks like yet?" It is annoying but I have just had to say, to those few who are especially irritating like my MIL, that they will find out soon enough because we aren't committing to a name until after delivery. My MIL still makes stupid snide comments (when she sees me she coos at my belly "hello baby, whatever your name is...") but I just ignore her. It's all you can do.

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