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just my 2 cents...you can do other things intimately. give him a hand job, give him a rub/massage, sit in a bath with him, cuddle, role play, etc. i haven't been in the mood, either, but this lets hubby know you are still interested in him and find him attractive. my hubby's sex drive has increased since we got a +, but mine has decreased. he wants to make me happy, and i him. so it helps to talk and let hm know how you feel, and then just play with him. you don't have to have actual intercourse, but he will still feel you find him desirable.

I have the exact same problem. But there are rare instances where I am in the mood. I take advantage of those and make sure my DH is satisfied. He understands but its difficult bc he is my DH and all I ever do/have done is strive to make him happy (in every way) bc I love him so much and he does the same for me. There is nothing you can do unfortunately but taking advantage of those moments where you could stand to do it I find get us through. Its definately not torture for me. I just dont like it so much I think bc I am scared of miscarriage as I am prone to them.. I also noticed he isnt as "sex diven" as he used to be and I dont say anything but im sure its because the same reasons I am concerned about... plus he is in tune to how I feel and I dont have to tell him. Just try to put everything out of ur mind but his "member" lol seriously, it works for me 9 times out of 10. Good luck sweetie and if you DO find a cure for it PLEASE let me know :)

Thanks ladies. I don't feel so alone anymore in this issue. I just wish there was something I could do to make it come back. He understands but it's still pretty obvious he's bummed that we're not being intimate. I'm really hoping it picks up during the second trimester.

I guess all those months of feeling super frisky during TTCing took it out of me, the desire is GONE (and I really hate that because I really enjoy being intimate with DH). I hear it gets better in the 2nd trimester???? I'm almost there, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed!!! LOL

Same here 20 weeks and since I got pregnant I had sex with hubby one time for like 2 mins I feel bad for hubby. But I just don't have any sex drive at all! Hope it comes back

I have 5 wks left & still no desire lol poor hubby

Girls,

I am in the same boat. I have a friend which gave birth in December didn't have sex the whole nine months. Remember that you are pregnant do as you wish. Your husband should understand you at least mine does. Remember that even some men are afraid of sex during pregnancy. My main problem is that I am a bit afraid too of having sex and that feeling makes me not want to have sex.

Girls just relax and enjoy your pregnancy you have a lifetime with your husband.

I am in the same boat. I had TONS of morning sickness for 20 whole weeks, so obviously, hubby was lucky to get to rub my back or anything. I made promises that my desire would pick up in the second trimester, but it hasn't gotten much better at all. I have no idea what to do to improve that, but let me know if you learn anything!!

I am dealing with it i use to get mad when my husband took forever to come to bed now that im pregnant i haven't been in the mood.

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my son and it didnt go away.. Now since Im pregnant with the third and another girl I finally have some desire..