Questions & Answers

Often, verbal and physical abuse starts in pregnancy in relationships that have never been abusive before. The strain that pregnancy puts on a relationship plus your vulnerable condition makes you an easy target. As the others have said, it's important to spot the signs early and make sure you can get out quickly if you need to. There are lots of charities that offer confidential advice for victims of domestic abuse, which will be very used to speaking to and helping pregnant women. Maybe wait until a time when your partner is out and call one of them to get some professional advice. Also, talk to a member of your family or a close friend about it; it's really important not to shut other people out because you feel embarrassed.

I really hope you get the support you need, wishing you all the best.

things are alot harder and more stressful when a newborn is in the picture, so i worry about how he will act then..... I would leave and stay at your parents or a friends house for a couple days. let him know you are SERIOUSLY not okay with this. especially while you are pregnant. I know arguments can get out of hand without really meaning it but thats is so dangerous. be safe! xxx

:(. the verbal abuse is bad enough BUT, he should NEVER have hit you - ESP while pregnant. once they start, it's easier for them to do it again and much worse. sadly, i speak from the experience of a past relationsip. it never got better; i'm sorry to say.

if you plan on waiting it out, or talking to him .... hide an extra set of car keys outside where you can easily get them in a hurry if needed. if it happens again, leave and never look back.

wishing you the best.

You've got to think about the health of you and your baby- I'd try talking to him about it, and if it happens again, think about leaving. No one deserves treatment like that!! *hugs*

WOW!!! thats totally uncalled for,him hitting you!! you should not put up with that, not ONLY bc your pregnant but also bc once they start it doesnt stop! its not just a "one time thing" you need to take care of you and that baby! what if he knocked you over, what if next time he punches you!!! thats not cool! i was in an abusive relationship for 2 years!! do yourself a favor, IF he does it again, leave the house even if its just for a night...he needs to learn you WONT put up with that!! bc if you dont do anything he'll keep thinking its ok!!! it seems like theres some tension built up!! has there been any infidelity in the relationship?? for him to just haul off and call you a whore is way out of liine and disrespectful...if my fiance called me a whore, id go stay at my mothers for the night! i wish you all the best, get some numbers and call them it helps to talk and have some help...remember you and your unborn child are whats most important..has he even apologized, or ta

Also, his actions the way they played out..verbal(whore), then physical(dinner plate) ..between 2 men..would have been an invite to fight. So..now you put a this young lady on the other end of that invite..

One more thing..I also believe that men do get belittled in our society when it comes to domestic abuse..and women do use it as excuse to be violent toward them..I see your point with that Looney. I just don't think this is that situation. From what she has wrote at least.

Throwing a fork isn't bad at all especially after he knocked your plate out of your hands! and its very true, hit you once he'll do it again. I've lived with it and it mostly started happening when i was pregnant

It is true what looney says.. its unacceptable for both men and women to show violence towards anyone. Because of my past and what I saw as a young child during my early yrs what is scary is I have totally had violent tendencies towards men. For me it feels like a "self defense mechinism" which is so dumb.. I have def had to get my share of help but .. THAT is just another reason why .. if this was to continue just living proof of what can happen when I child both UNBORN and young child can deal with and experience in their life negative life experiences affect so much more than parents realize. :/ Its really sad and really sucks.

Your right violence is not ok by either gender, but you cannot put throwing a fork and hitting someone in the same catagory, and I don't care what you do for living, doesn't mean your right, nor does it mean I am, but people are allowed to disagree with you, without you getting an attitude.

He crossed the line at knocking your dinner out of your hands. But, in my opinion you both were equally as wrong with the physical violent attacks. Throwing a fork at someone is just as violent as him slapping you. Had he not knocked the food out of your hand first, I'd say that you were both equally wrong, whether or not you are a woman, whether or not you a pregnant. I don't stand for violence, but unlike a lot of people, I'm not one sided when I look at it. It is unacceptable for WOMEN and men to be violent. I'd suggest therapy for the both of you. ((hugs)) Good luck!