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Asked by kelliers

Q: Same coworker being super rude/mean!

Coworker: "You're getting really fat. You shouldn't look like that already." Me: "It's not fat, I'm pregnant. I've gained maybe 2 pounds." Coworker: "Well I was really skinny with my first and I wore my regular clothes until 7 months." Me: "Good for you."

What the hell?! I'm 17 weeks. I'm not huge but yes, I'm starting to show. Geeze....I thought I looked cute today until she went and made me feel awful AGAIN. Every time she sees me she makes some disparaging comment. I don't know how to deal with her except to avoid her entirely which isn't always possible.

This question was asked Jul. 23, 2013 1:51pm
Category: Newly Pregnant

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Answered by KenpoMommy - Jul. 25, 2013 12:30am
That's the great thing about being pregnant. If you flip out and scream at someone, everyone just chalks it up to hormones and vows to tread more carefully around you. lol But you sure get your point across....

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Answered by meghanraby - Jul. 23, 2013 5:44pm
Ignore comments from the peanut gallery..lol

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Answered by nikkit - Jul. 24, 2013 10:26am
I hate that people always say:- your so big, your so small, are you carrying twins, i wasn't this and that. It is so annoying everyone is different. Your baby bump is perfect. I would absolutely tell her she is being rude and making you feel uncomfortable. I would also do it in front of people and make her feel uncomfortable. Everyone will agree with you and if she carries on file a complaint. Or failing that when you next see her tell her she looks fat.

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Answered by Lou_85 - Jul. 23, 2013 8:04pm
Def I would speak to the manager and let them know, she is obviously just being a cow, it's bullying and she should realise that she can't get away with it. If someone spoke to her like that I'm sure she wouldn't be too happy either.

Good luck

Please don't let that bitch annoy you anymore x

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Answered by KenpoMommy - Jul. 24, 2013 12:42am
I went and looked at your pictures, and i think you look beautiful! NOT fat at all! I'm a lot heavier than you are and i'm not as far along. If you're still not sure about reporting her, think of it this way. What if she were a man, making comments to a female employee about her weight and appearance? How long do you think that would go on before the shit hit the fan at that company? I think her comments have nothing to do with your actual appearance, and more to do with some personal thing she has against you and she's just using the situation to voice her negativity towards you. Report her for sure!

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Answered by kelliers - Jul. 23, 2013 6:52pm
I think I will have to. It is such a small company and everyone is very close so I am afraid if I file a complaint everyone will know about it. I didn't really want to create drama but she really has been making me feel bad about myself.

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Answered by kshives1027 - Jul. 24, 2013 3:33pm
Wow...seems like this lady is constantly in a bad mood and wants to make sure everyone else is too! You look great and not fat at all!!! It's hard to work in a small company because even though a complaint is supposed to be confidential, it still always seems to make it around the office one way or another. It wouldn't hurt to have a talk with your manager though. What she is doing is wrong and I agree with others that she sounds like she is jealous. Again, you look great...you look obviously pregnant and not fat. Hope things get better at work for you soon or at least she stays away from you!

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