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Q: Surrogacy

I tried for 9 years to conceive naturally. Nothing worked. I was living with a feeling that I'll conceive soon. But after 9 years, I finally came to reality. I came to know that nothing's gonna change anything here. So I did some research on this. I finally found the perfect clinic. It was giving several packages for the whole process. One best thing was It's safety procedures. Moreover, all the doctors were so kind and helpful. I was much relieved after seeing the complete documentation. I can't explain the feeling I had when I held my daughter for the first time in my hands. I'm truly grateful for her. But still, there is a void. I still think sometimes that it would be better if I conceived myself. I don't have any differences with my 2 weeks old baby. But I'm afraid that I'll have some when she'll be grown up girl. I'm worried about the feeling I have. So anyone of you experienced the same thing? How did you get over it? Some motivation would be great in this regard.

This question was asked Feb. 26, 2018 3:30am
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Answered by saramccartney123 - Mar. 11, 2018 5:30pm

Hey. Your story is so motivational. But nine years is such a long time. My husband and I tried to conceive for three years. I accepted just after three years that it wasn't going to happen for me. I knew I wasn't going to get pregnant. I got our tests done. We got to know that the problem was with both of us. So we decided to choose surrogacy to have a baby. We were unsure at first. But, when we met with the doctor I felt so satisfied. The clinic was great overall so we applied for surrogacy there. They took three months to find me a surrogate. That was the most difficult time for me. But they did eventually. Fast forward to nine months later, I had my son. The most adorable and beautiful baby boy. I love him so much.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 7, 2018 6:42pm

Hi, Hattie. Congratulations on your baby. And it's okay to have a few doubts. My sister went through it too. She used to worry all the time. But honestly it's all going to be okay. Just be thankful for the baby. And don't take too much stress as that would affect the baby too. Much love

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Answered by Meezee - Mar. 30, 2018 7:12pm

Many wishes for you. This is not the time to curse yourself, it's only the time to stay strong. My dear, you are lucky you are having your baby either through surrogacy or through natural pregnancy. Surrogacy is a blessing for any barren couple. It helped many couples in spreading their family. The option is available for the problems so feel yourself the luckiest woman on earth who have solutions for her problem. Moreover, going through the procedure with no consequences is also a mark of charm. Good fortunes my dear.

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 23, 2018 4:01pm

Surrogacy is the best option so far.I have been through it.
I'm also infertile.But i had to go for surrogacy.We firstly moved to Europe form Japan.Surrogacy is ban in Japan so we moved there.We stayed in Europe for 4 months.We contacted clinics in Europe.My husband didn't liked them.Than we moved to Ukraine.
I joined this forum long ago.I like to read the stories of different people.Its been a very long time.I feel happy after reading successful stories of different people.
As we heard alot about the clinics in Ukraine so we moved there.There we found a very good clinic.The clinic found a good surrogate for us.The surrogate is pregnant with our twin dolls.We are so happy.We are so happy that we will have our own kids now,We are so thankful to the clinic and surrogate.
Everyone cheers and good luck.

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Answered by eva890 - Apr. 2, 2018 10:27am

Hello there. I'm really sorry to hear about your story. Keep the faith. You've been strong until now, keep it going. It's alright to feel that way. It's a new procedure, it'll take time to adapt. Good luck!

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Answered by racheliqua - Apr. 2, 2018 3:14pm

Hi! First I'm happy for you that you've a daughter. I understand how you feel. I felt the same after birth of my baby boy. And deep inside i wasn't happy with myself for being unthankful. See first i didn't have any hope for a child at all. Later when i finally had a child i had these mixed feelings. Do i love my child or i don't. Even thinking about this was horrible. I couldn't talk about this to anyone. But as the time passed and now my boy is 2 years old. I don't even get these mixed feelings. All i know is I've a boy and i love him. He means world to me. These kind of feelings are ok at first. These are our fears talking. There's nothing to worry about. That'll go away. You daughter is your daughter. You just used another woman's body because you couldn't conceive. That's totally normal. Accept it and your fears will be gone. Good luck for future.

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Answered by jennyjoe - Mar. 12, 2018 1:58pm

Hello dear! I think it's understandable what you feel. Nothing beats natural pregnancy. I too got my child through surrogacy. However, don't be disheartened. You have an amazing daughter to look after and nourish. I'm sure. Stop thinking too much about what could have been and rather focus on the now. You may regret it later. As for the feeling not going away, I don't think it's likely that you keep having this thought. Given that you are not always purposely thinking about it. Give it some time. Look at your baby and admire her flaws, her perfections. She needs you! Best of luck!

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 29, 2018 9:31am

Well your doctor could tell you about the time limit exactly. It depends upon your procedure. He could tell you to take medicines of different kinds. Different injections you might have to get. After all of that you are ready for the insemination again and that is going to be successful for you. Just try to keep your intake good. Take some sessions of acupuncture that'd be helpful.

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Answered by Akane966 - Apr. 12, 2018 12:22pm

Don't worry.
Its the part of life.I am from Japan.I am also infertile.
We moved to Europe in search of a very good clinic.We didn't found a good clinic in Europe.We moved to Ukraine than.In Ukraine we found a clinic.It has many good reputation.As i am sharing my direct experience with you all.We found a good surrogate.Now she is pregnant with our two daughters.Soon we will have two daughters.
I guess you should also go for surrogacy.

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Answered by RihanaSam - Apr. 12, 2018 7:49am

I guess surrogacy is the last option for me now to have baby of our own.
I have contacted many surrogacy related clinics and had gathered quite good info about surrogacy.
I also contacted some surrogates who are willing to cary our child in their womb.
I was pregnant thrice but had miscarriages every time.
I had many complications while getting pregnant.
During my first marriage i had no luck with having children although i conceived for 3 times.
I know today surrogacy is a common thing but i am worried about many aspects of having a baby via surrogacy.
I guess we will find a surrogate wth the help of clinic we are consulting.
I am married for second time i want to have baby of my own to live with.
But regarding and having a look at my previous pregnancy period i know its not a good idea to be pregnant again.
So i talked to my husband and have agreed him to go for surrogacy option.

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