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Here is the thing, I just found out I am expecting my 5th child, my 2nd baby with my Husband. We have a son together and he did the very same thing when I found out I was pregnant with him.

He suggested that the name I have had picked for a girl is too long. I have had it picked for years its after both Grandmothers. Lillianna....But that is not it he says " How about Leanna? "

Here is the part that hurts me...Leanna is the name of his 1st girlfriend he was with from age 15 until age 20. They split up and then she married someone else and they were in an accident she passed away. She was his Fiance that he proposed to but wouldnt marry so she left him. He always said he would never get married and have kids, until he met me. But why would he want to name his and MY daughter after a deceased ex?? I dont understand. He talks about how she lied to him and was on drugs and miscarried a child at 5 months along and never even told him she was pregnant. I dont know what to s

This question was asked Jun. 16, 2012 1:47am
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Answered by maggie22 - Jun. 16, 2012 10:22pm

Simple. Just tell him no way are you naming your daughter after some ex-girlfriend who is dead!!!! Its just weird..... ask him for another suggestion..

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Answered by a member - Jun. 16, 2012 2:59pm

Thanks Girls, I am still so upset over it! See my grandmothers were Lillian and Anna and I wanted to name a daughter after them. The EX died 8 yrs ago and they werent even together for the 3 yrs prior to her death! She was on cocaine and caused her baby to die etc. Then from what he told me when we first got together she never told him until after she lost the baby that she was even pregnant. Then when I was pregnant with our son he thought constantly I would miscarry, when I inquired as to why? He said she said it must have been his fault she lost the baby because of his sperm so he thought all those yrs that it was him. I said no its because she was on drugs and she knew what she was doing. Didnt even tell him she was pregnant. Then you want to name my child after her?? I fianlly calmed down enough to tell him that Leanna will not be her name. I WILL NOT name a baby after someone like that period let alone an ex fiance! I dont think Lillianna is too long and planned to call her Lily

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Answered by a member - Jun. 16, 2012 1:07pm

i hate to say this but it sounds like your husbands not over her!! she sounds like a cruel woman after what he says about her! like someone mentioned about if you do name her after your gramma he may call her Leanna for short, even when your NOT around!! I would be pissed off if i were you..but thats a good idea posted before "like .."yea okay, we will name her Leanna after your EX and her middle name can be (insert Ex's name here) after MY ex" see what he says
I mean you want to name your daughter after your grandmother and hes taking that away from you
sometimes men dont think! if my HTB ever said let's name our daughter after his ex id probably feel just as hurt as you, but him lying about his mother going to name him that is terrible...makes you think what else is he lying about please keep us posted tho on what you decide

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Answered by jenniferose88 - Jun. 16, 2012 4:03am

Why not name her Lilly Anna or Anna Lilly- make that her first and middle names instead of the whole first name. My husband and I had a hard time agreeing on a boys name, he suggested Aaron- and one of his ex's names was Erin. I flipped out, and he said it would be different since she was a female and he was looking at is as a males name. There was no way I was letting that one fly. But I think Lilly Anna or Anna Lilly would be a cute first and middle name

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Answered by a member - Jun. 16, 2012 2:19am

this would be totally not okay with me ! i would just say no absolutely not, and thats it. i like Lillianna but im afraid if you do name her that, he may call her Leanna for "short" ?

i would bring it up at a point when he is calm and relaxed. mention it as a joke, to get the conversation going... like .."yea okay, we will name her Leanna after your EX and her middle name can be (insert Ex's name here) after MY ex"

maybe he thinks hes doing something nice, and you will think its sweet ? maybe if you let it go it will all blow over in a few days. you have alot of weeks ahead of you to pick out a name. just drop it for the meantime..? and leave hints that Leanna will not be her name. ..?

i would explain to him that you do not want to name your daughter after a women who was on drugs and lived that lifestyle. she should be named after someone respectable, and he should have higher standards for his daughter name, shes better then Leanna.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 16, 2012 1:50am

cont...I dont know what to say to him. He says its not because of her, and that Leanna is what his Mom was going to name him had he been a girl, but I spoke to his Mom about it. She says that she never planned to name him that she was going to name him Sunny Lynn! Ughh...I cant figure out why he did the same thing with our son! I'm so hurt I dont wanna speak to him. How would he feel if I decided to name OUR child after an ex? :'(

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