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my boyfriend said it is ultimately up to me, but i could tell he was more comfortable if i didnt have it done to our son. i didnt see any reason to have it done its just my mother keeps pushing it to have it done and its to the point where im getting irritated. Shes pushing on us to pick a name already but doesnt like any of our choices, shes pushing for this...so i was just wondering if maybe i should consider having it done, i hadnt researched it but your input helps. [:

I think that if your born with it, then its meant to be there....

Part 2 (this time around):
You should talk your boyfriend about it. I talked to my partner about it on Tuesday. My partner is NOT circumsized, but his children are (so i was curious where he stood on the subject). I told him if we had a son, I DIDNT want him circumsized, b/c of the headache my son's came with (plus my thoughts on it have changed, and I believe that skin is his, and his to get cut off if he ever wants).

My partner says that he feels like circumsized men have better sex, b/c they are less sensitive and don't orgasm as quickly. He feels that he is very sensitive and it's hard to make it last. He said he endured some teasing from other boys, but that he has NEVER had a woman complain. He is happy with his foreskin now, but as a child he didnt like it, and he said cleaning it was a pain. Ultimately it's my desicion, and he doesnt feel particularly strongly either way... I prefer his foreskin to the men I've been with, without it.

One of my friends ended up having to be circumcised at age 23 because he got a terrible infection. If I have a son I'm going to do it.

I saw a documentary about how when circumcised men get older, they tend not to be able to reach orgasm easily and become desensitized. Some men even try to have their removed foreskin somehow medically grown back. My husband is not circumcised and I prefer it way more than circumcised, less hard, painful thrusting. My son is not circumcised either, it wasn't even a question if should have it done to him. If he wants it that badly, he can choose when he is an adult. He seems perfectly content with it now and when he sees his little cousin is circumcised, I just let my son know that he is all natural and that's how all boys are born. Also, babies boys who are not circumcised right after birth, are more likely to take to breastfeeding since they won't be uncomfortable from the painful circumcision. How does your boyfriend feel about it? Does he want his son to be like him and stay intact? There is really no problem with foregoing circumcision as long as you teach your son how to clean it.

I agree with Maggie22

My husband is not circ, and he had two sons from a previous marriage and he didn't circumscize them.

I knew he wouldn't want me to have circumsized our son (born 8 months ago) but to be honest it was never an issue because I didn't want to.

Number 1, in BC, Canada, they don't do it at the hospital I think there is only one doctor in our town who even will agree to do it, and it costs $300!

Also if you teach cleanliness from an early age I think most other issues will take care of themselves. Our boys know to "pull the skin back" and clean their penises even at 3 years old. Just be very open about the need to clean down there and explain the reasons.

It's definitely personal preference and I think the father should definitely have a lot of say in it.

Part ONE (my experience):
My son (not my SO's) was circumcised. He had a lot of complications from it, like adhesions (where the raw skin keeps trying to reattach to the shaft) and also, when they circumsized him, they didn't pull the skin all the way down off his glands, so that it looks like he has little to no "ridge" on his glands. It has been stressful, but I was told by 4 years old, the skin connecting his glads to his shaft would naturally detach, the way it would had he not been cirmcumsized at all. Well, he is 4, and doesnt nearly have the ridge that his circumsized step brothers have. Talking to other moms online, I have found that A LOT of moms also have found this "routine" procedure to come with a lot of unexpected (but REALLY common) complications.

So... I regret having it done to my son, and wish that I had left his weiner alone. But.... Part TWO (this time around)....

My husband is not circumsized and I, or him, do not have any problems with it. He seems content with it. I have read that there are many pros an cons with both ways of doing it. Personally, I do not think that I will circumsise my boys. They can decide that themselves later and life and take care of it then. Who am I to decide that for them? They were born that way, so why change it? So they have better sex later in life? I'm just not a fan; I don't see a point to it.

I must interject to the comment that "if you take care of it there wont be issues" I continuously took care of my son's cicumsizion for over a year straight before the complications "stopped". And I know a lot of other mothers too who stuggled with complications that seemed to never go away no matter how many doctors they went to, or how many diffferent medications and creams they tried. I'm not saying to circ, or not circ, I just wanted to correct you, that infact, complications do, often arise, regardless of how much a parent cares for the circumcicsion and that is something every parent who choooses to cut, should be prepared for, in the case it happens.

this is only my opinion, but i thought my son should look like his father, who is uncircumcised. I dont believe the "smelly" comment, as long as a man showers properly he certainly shouldn't be smelly, and i dont believe the child would be teased, because its not often that a school aged child would be in a room with other naked boys. another thing is the risk of it being done improperly..? im sure its very uncommon, but my ex boyfriend had a weird looking penis due to a bad circumcision, he was left with a strange "flap" like piece of skin on the end.. . I have heard that there can be complications and bleeding issues after the surgery, so be prepared for any problems that may arise. i also believe if its there to begin with, it shouldnt be removed. Its a parents decision ultimately, do what you feel is best for your son.