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Q: 20 week scan problem

Hi all, I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and it was only supposed to be me and my DF going. Tonight my mum has decided she is going (without asking if that would be okay with me and DF) Thing is, we both want it to be the two of us. After all, this scan is an important detailed scan and not a show. I dont even speak with my mum much so I cant see why she wants to go. She also wasnt interested when I showed her my pics from my 12 week scan.
I know I probs sound like a horrid person, but am I wrong to want it just to be me and daddy? Im not even sure my hospital allows 2 people in the room but now its to late to ask because my mum just told me tonight. Is it a possibilty to maybe say shes only allowed in once the baby has been checked?#
Thanks everyone, I hope I dont sound nasty! x

This question was asked Sep. 27, 2012 9:38pm
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Answered by angelic_lala - Oct. 1, 2012 3:10pm

I would tell her either they had to change the appointment or something my mother kept saying she would be in the delivery room when I had DD I kept saying like hell u will she never listened thankfully they did a emergency c section at 34 wks and she was at work hehe was just me DH and 5 professionals haha

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Answered by a member - Sep. 28, 2012 12:39pm

Thank you everyone for your replys, they are appreciated :) Turns out that only one person is allowed in to the ultrasound room whilst checks and mesurements are being taken, then others can come in at the end for a peak. Im leaving to go for my ultrasound in half an hour so wish me luck! x

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Answered by looney - Sep. 28, 2012 1:41am

Tell her you called the U/S department and they only have enough room in the radiology labs for 1 guest + the tech, and that is also their policy.

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Answered by jacksonwest - Sep. 28, 2012 1:31am

Just be honest, it's not going to get any easier once the baby comes so you might as well start now. It's your pregnancy, your baby, your body, so do what you want and don't feel bad about it.

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Answered by jrlmccall - Sep. 28, 2012 12:42am

My first option is to tell her the truth: that you and your DF have decided that you want it to be just the two of you (well... 3). My second option is to tell a white lie: tell her that there isn't enough room in the ultrasound room for all of you. I would only recommend the second if it is a very strained relationship, which it sounds like it is. Hope this is helpful. :)

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Answered by ginabee - Sep. 27, 2012 10:01pm

You need to be honest with her. Tell her you wanted it to be just you and your husband, and she's not asking, she's pushing herself into your business. It was extremely rude for her to not ask if she could come.

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Answered by a member - Sep. 27, 2012 9:57pm

Yeah, It did feel really rude of her. She has also point blank refused to call our baby Theo if it is a boy (which is mine and DF pick of name) she keeps saying she wont be calling our baby by its name if its called Theo. How low? I just dont know what to say to her? Its supposed to be an intimate time for me and DF, its our first baby and I just feel a little bit like her rude comments may ruin it for us? x

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Answered by maggie22 - Sep. 27, 2012 9:50pm

Do what you want, its your baby. It was rude of her not to ask in the first place. Its not a circus....

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