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Q: In need of baby shower advice!

Long story short, my best friend that was going to throw my friends/family shower got asked to throw my shower at work. I told her not to do the friends/family one because I don't want her to have to spend all the time & money doing 2 showers, and I figured one shower would be more than enough. Well, I still think one shower is enough but now I have all my other friends/family asking when my shower is going to be. I'll be 30 weeks tomorrow, and I don't even know when the one at my work will be! So I don't know what to do! So far, I've just told everyone that I have no clue when it'll be. I know it's bad taste to throw yourself a shower, but there's no one else that could/would throw a family/friends one. Should I just tell everyone I'm not having one, or try to invite important friends/family to the one they're throwing at work? I don't expect or want 2 showers at all. I just wasn't expecting so many people to be looking forward to it and expecting there to be another shower!

This question was asked Oct. 28, 2012 2:52pm
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Answered by MamaElise - Nov. 19, 2012 8:41pm

Dude, if someone wants to throw you a shower let them. You are not supposed to be involved in this process at all mainly because it's stressful. I have 6 scheduled, all thrown by people from different facets of our life. My co-workers at my job are throwing me one at my job. My husband's coworkers are also throwing us one at his job. My husband's family threw us one right before Thanksgiving. My family is throwing us one in January. My husband's friends are throwing one, and my friends are throwing one. At the end of the day, many people want to welcome your little one. LET THEM! I would have had 2 separate showers if I were you.

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Answered by janastep73 - Oct. 29, 2012 4:18pm

Could you just invite coworkers to your friends/family shower and knock two birds out with one stone?

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Answered by a member - Oct. 29, 2012 1:33am

Thank yall for all the answers! The original reason why I told my friend to just do the one at work is because she would have help planning/throwing it - where as a friends/family one she would be alone doing it...After all your input I'm going to ask her if she's gotten anything planned for the one at work already or not. If she doesn't, I'm going to ask her to do a friends/family one instead because it is more important to me. I was honestly thinking of the best/easiest thing for her when I made my original decision. That and I didn't think so many friends/family were expecting me to have a shower! I know I'll be fine with whatever happens, but like yall said, I really don't wanna hurt close friends/family. Keeping my fingers crossed hoping she doesn't have anything planned yet!! :)

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Answered by -Lee-B - Oct. 28, 2012 10:24pm

Personally if you have people wanting to come to your shower then I see nothing wrong with hosting yourself a girls gathering. Tell them no gifts needed so it doesn't look like you just want free stuff. Tell them you want to celebrate with friends and family and invite them over.

I'm sure people would still find it wrong but if you're not digging for gifts/money and want to have fun and spend time with them why not.

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Answered by a member - Oct. 28, 2012 7:58pm

Personally, I would focus on friends and family more and invite the coworkers to the family one. Friends and family are probably more important to you than your coworkers, and I would be worried that not having a shower would hurt the feelings of family.

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Answered by Bostonmama08 - Oct. 28, 2012 3:13pm

Your family/friends shower seems more important that one for work. Can you possibly ask your friend to not throw the work one and throw the shower for family/friends?

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Answered by a member - Oct. 28, 2012 3:05pm

i find it odd that you didnt do the opposite... meaning have your friend throw the friends/family shower and say forget the work one... because you could easily invite your co-workers to your friends/family shower. thats all i can think of to suggest.. i think a friend and family shower would be more important then having a shower at your work place

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