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Having a healthy relationship with the father of your child is very important especially if you two are planning on staying together but no guy should make a woman feel worthless or anything in those words while pregnant or not pregnant, in my opinion this guy is not worth your time and you and your baby deserve better. I agree with the first answer posted on this that you should not marry this man if that is in your future plans unless he changes.. and even then make him show change for a long period of time before you consider marrying him again if you are even considering that. Also I would suggest talking to your doctor about what is going on at home and what it is causing you to feel because your doctor will give you the best and most healthy advice that you need. I wish you the best!! Also he can not take your child away from you and you can also refuse to put his name on the birth certificate which can also make it impossible for him to take your child away.

do NOT marry this man! if he treats you this poorly while you are not married, it will NOT get better just because you get married, in fact, he may feel more enabled to treat you even worse! I am so sorry you are going through this. Do you have family or any friends who could help you out? I understand that if you have no where to go, you may feel trapped, but the best thing for you and your baby is to find somewhere peaceful to be. So he says he'll still "be around"...that's fine...but the first time he steps out of line or begins to stalk or mentally intimidate you, you get a court order saying he can't be near you or he goes to jail. Go through the steps of getting his access to you restricted...it will be worth it and your baby will flourish more with you as one healthy parent than it would with 2 parents who only bring about a toxic environment for it to grow up in. You can do this!

In my opinion, your boyfriend should marry you, get a WELL paying job, take good care of you and put all his needs on the back burner. You should not be stressed during the pregnancy at all, and he should be there for you after the baby is born. You need to lay down the law with him, I think. HE should be providing for you. Especially during pregnancy. If he's as much of a loser as he sounds to be, he probably can't get a better job than McDonalds, so just wait until after your pregnancy and about 3 months or so after giving birth to look for a job. If he's not happy with this, and not happy about helping you out and spending more money on what the baby needs and will need, eave him. YOU NEED A GOOD STABLE HOME FOR YOUR CHILD. This includes a stable man, someone who can actually be a dad.

It's better to have one healthy (emotionally and physically) parent than two that can't function together. He sounds like a sleaze treating you this way. You deserve WAY better than that and so does your little one on the way. If you can find work (maybe temporary seasonal holiday time work), that is better than nothing. But do it for you and baby, not him. He has no idea what you are going through and obviously is making no attempt to understand. So sorry you are going through this, but honestly, if I were you, I would get out of this relationship as soon as you can. It will only get more difficult to leave as you are further along and especially so after baby is born.

The chances of you getting a job while pregnant are slim...pointless to work now anyways..it wont be long before you have to leave for 6wks on maternity leave. You need to leave his sorry butt!! Don't ever stay with someone who makes you feel like the dirt below your feet...he can't take a baby from you until court establishes paternity..I've been there...my daughter is 9 & because I never went to court for paternity tests there was nothing they could do, but that meens no child support from him for you & your baby...but you can always get financial support from the government until you get a job. Its a shame when a guy thinks he can treat you like crap,but you have to be the bigger person & show him you dont need him..Leaving with my daughter was the best thing I ever did..she has a father & her "sperm donor" has never had anything to do with her. Don't wait too long to make the right decision.

Sorry to hear you feel this way! No women should feel worthless or as an inconvenience. I would suggest at your prenatal appointment possibly informing your doctor about what's going on in your personal life so that they can offer a support group or someone that can help you in this situation. A toxic relationship is not good for either yourself or you unborn child. Wish you the best!