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idk really how to go about this. as this is my 2nd pregnancy with baby number 2. I still have the carseat/stroller combo, pack n play/bassinet, bouncer, swing, and crib from when i had my daughter, so i dont NEED hardly if any big stuff for this baby, good thing all that stuff was/is gender neutral. lol. idk wut i am having yet, wont find out til the 16th of july. while i did have a baby shower for my daughter, 3.5/4 years ago, i did not recieve any of the big stuff at the shower, i bought that all myself through out my pregnancy. idk if i will have one or if any one will offer. my boyfriend, whom i live with and we are together, has an almost 9 year old son, and he doesnt have anything left from when his son was a baby, a lot of it got ruined at one of his apartments in the basement. i dont have any clothes left from when my daughter was a baby except her "firsts" outfits that i saved (i.e. homecoming outfit, first chicago bears cheer outfit and sweatsuit outfit, first cubs

I agree with PP as well, I'm not planning to have a shower for my 2nd baby (4th pregnancy). Most things we still have. I think you should have a "welcome baby party" instead of a shower.

I didnt have a shower with my first a girl my son i had a small one only 6 people showed up, my youngest was a girl ihad nothing left from my firstgirl, If this one is a boy I will have nothing because I got rid of everything after my son passed away. SO really I've never done a big shower if you coud even call them that. Its sad to say but all but 4 of my freinds stopped showing up for stuff after our son passed away ie our wedding last spring my oldest birthdays,and my youngest baby shower only people who showed for that was my sisiters my mom and derricks step mom and 2 of my freinds. thanks ladies

This is a hard subject to reply to without sounding rude, so I'm going to try my best to not come off that way!1st, how long ago were your other children born? Most people don't seem to have second(+) showers unless the babies are years apart and different genders. 2nd, do you still have any baby stuff from your first 3 pregnancies that you could reuse? Its possible that since you've been around the block a few times people assume you have everything you need. If these apply, consider a sprinkle or diaper party instead of a big gathering. 3rd, if the majority of your family and friends are on the lower end of the income scale, they might not be able to afford to throw a shower. They take a lot of planning and can easily get very expensive. A cost effective idea would be a potluck style BBQ meet/greet after baby is born. Then everyone gets to meet baby and gifts are optional. Every baby deserves a party, just not always a big shower. Good Luck!

I know how you feel. I didn't get a baby shower when I was pregnant with my first. But I don't expect anyone to throw me one. Yeah it'd be nice, but it wouldn't bother me. We live pay check to pay check but we also bargain shop. I found our high chair for $2 and I'm planning on getting most of our baby stuff of Craigslist.

I agree with pp. Unless your babies are many years apart you usually only get one shower for the first one. I've never heard of having a shower for every child.

shirt and etc). so this baby will be almost 4 years younger than my daughter and 9 years younger than bf's son, so i too was also on the fence and wondering if a baby shower for this little one would be appropriate or if i should just wait til little one was born and have a little "meet the baby" shower. good luck with whatever u decide.

I have only really heard of people having one baby shower...and I'm not really even expecting to have one since our wedding was just in Sept '12 and was very expensive (thanks mom and dad!) and our friends and families were very generous with us. I feel like asking for more would be selfish on our part.

Maybe you could have fun bargain hunting! :) that's what we're doing! We don't even know the sex of the baby yet, but we are scooping up cute clothes and toys in clearance aisles and I even found a cute Beatrix Potter 'Peter Rabbit' sleep-n-play at Good Will for $2!
Best of luck and H&H 9 months!